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Bet On Yourself First Milan Bryant
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Milan shares her journey from Inglewood, California to Las Vegas, navigating single motherhood while building multiple businesses and maintaining a dating life that works on her terms.
• Growing up in LA vs living in Las Vegas - the challenges of transitioning to a new city
• The demanding role of being a "team mom" for youth football
• Managing Candid Excursions travel business and Supermom Hustle entrepreneurship platform
• Creating boundaries and intentional dating as a busy single mother
• The importance of therapy and finding outlets for self-expression
• Raising children to be leaders while teaching critical thinking
• Using music as therapy and developing an upcoming R&B album project
• The reality of Las Vegas beyond the tourist experience
If you're interested in Milan's businesses, check out her travel company Candid Excursions and her e-book "31 Different Hustles for Single Mothers" on supermomhustle.com.
elevated talks. This day you got your boy stand out in the building. You know how I'm feeling. Got a special guest here. Um, look, it is hard to get her, I promise you. It is like you gotta go through her manager and like her dates is like really tricky, it gets really tricky. So I'm honored to have you here. Everybody, this is milan. Milan, this is the whole universe, right. So so, milan, where are you from? Tell the viewers where you from.
Speaker 2Um, a little bit about yourself yes, I, I am from California, Los. Angeles.
Speaker 1What part of Los Angeles?
Speaker 2I spent time in well. I was born in West LA.
Speaker 1Okay.
Speaker 2Inglewood, to be exact.
Speaker 1Inglewood Right.
Speaker 2And then we moved to Lancaster, and then I moved back to back and forth between LA and Lancaster.
Speaker 1Okay.
Speaker 2And then we moved to Las Vegas in 2017. Yeah right, yeah, 2017. Me and my kids moved to Vegas and we've been here. It's cool.
Speaker 1That's it Established a family. That's interesting. I mean, well, this is like the transplant city anyway.
Speaker 2It is.
Speaker 1I'm originally from Carson. Oh, okay, yeah so I went to Carson High. I moved out here a long time ago, 19 years ago.
Speaker 2Okay.
Speaker 1Well, actually, yeah, in a couple days it would be 19 years. So 19 years ago been back and forth or whatever. Because of my job I can have flexibility like that. I would never move back.
Speaker 2Wait, because I say the same thing.
Speaker 1You know what? I don't have the same nuance that I had before.
Speaker 2It's too much. Yeah, it's too much. It's too much traffic, it's too many people, it's too much smog, it costs too much, it's too much the taxes is crazy. Yeah.
Speaker 1You know it's a little tricky out there.
Speaker 2You know, biggie said it best live. You know what I'm saying. I love home. Oh man, I love it. I love to go visit me too.
Speaker 1Yeah, okay, three days and we out yeah I can't do no more than three okay unless I'm in san diego or something, I might be different okay, thank you.
Speaker 2Yeah, yeah, it's fun, but we gotta go.
Speaker 1You know la is totally different. It's super gentrified and you know there's a lot of different politics out there. That makes you not want to um, really be out there, because it doesn't give you that same feel.
Speaker 2It's not. It's definitely not how it was.
Speaker 1Especially Inglewood. Like you know, they got all that shit that they build my dad's in Inglewood and it's very different.
Speaker 2I'll say that Just in the time that he's been living there. It's gentrified Like over here. Yeah.
Speaker 1You is gentrified, like over here. Yeah, you see people walking with their little Yorkie and shit running down the street. Yeah, like never, ever, ever, the stadium's not too right down the street. Right, you know, I come from Englewood, like the city of champions.
Speaker 2Englewood, that's the Englewood that I know you know what, so what brung you out here was a change of scenery, or my sisters were here, okay, and um, I was just like to get away. I wanted to get away, um, from la, and I got a job offer here and I was like, okay, cool, I get here. And the job offer was not the offer that was offered to me.
Speaker 2So oh shit okay, our transition here was very tough. It was rough for like the first. I'd say like the first two years was difficult for us, but after a while, you know, it was like okay, cool, we got the hang of it. My son joined football flag football, and so from there it's just been on the up and up.
Speaker 1And your son is 10, correct.
Speaker 2He'll be 10 next month, yep.
Speaker 1And then you have a daughter.
Speaker 2I do. She'll be 13 this year, 13. That preteen.
Speaker 1Yeah, my son is 13. Yeah, it's different, not for the weak.
Speaker 2I feel like Mortal Kombat. Are you kidding me? Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1I had to cave in my son's chest a couple times.
Speaker 2That's what. What is it?
Speaker 1Twist the lips off of this, and I say the kids today are not. They're smarter than what we were, but they're dumb at the same time, because they're more immature.
Speaker 2It's all this electronics stuff, yeah.
Speaker 1The electronics keep them smarter in the head, but it keeps them there, their social skills are slow, and then your critical thinking skills are not up to par.
Speaker 1Well, 13,. I remember I told my son the other day I said when I was 13, I was I completely could cook for myself. I walked home from school. You know I pretty much did everything pretty much for myself. I stayed home from, you know, by myself. Whatever the case is, I don't know if I trusted to stay home more than an hour or two by yourself. You know the shit might be burnt down by the time I get back.
Speaker 2Yeah, I'm just like looking at my daughter. Okay, cool, she's the older one. My brother was older and I remember us being left at home. Don't touch the stove, don't touch the phone unless it's an emergency. Don't touch my door Like those were it. I can't tell these kids to do none of that Nah. Nah, I can go to check the mail and come back and it's a problem.
Speaker 1Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, what?
Speaker 1is going on. I'm over it. Yep, that's exactly how it is, and I'm like dude. I was already ironing my shit. You know what I mean. Yeah, like creases and all types of stuff I cared about, you know, to look good. You know what I'm saying. Make sure you. You know these kids don't care. I had the curls and stuff or the braids, whatever the girls had. You know they did their thing and we was outside. You know, if we wasn't inside, we was outside. We was outside outside. You know the girls I used to be. That's one of the nostalgic things about California that I miss, you know, growing up like we was always outside just playing.
Speaker 1Yeah, the girls was doing double dutch.
Speaker 2Until the streetlights came on, maybe even later, yep.
Speaker 1I remember I had to beg for extra time hurry up and run the house. Mom, can I just have 10 more minutes? We're in the game, I just need 10 more minutes. And she's like because there's no school tomorrow.
Speaker 2Yeah right.
Speaker 1But you know football, you know I've been coaching football here for 15 years. Oh really, okay, yeah, so I just had one of my ex-players on. He's a barber now, he's like 23. He was just on. I coached him 10 years ago, so it made me feel old, you know. But I was going back and forth and I was like damn, like football was like way more serious in LA. Oh my God, like you know what.
Speaker 1I'm saying, I'm not trying to compare apples to oranges or anything like that. It's different, but it's different. Like I remember, as soon as June got here, like that's, all you did was eat, sleep and shit football in the girls' chair. You'll see the girls' cheering running around the park. Um, and you were so in middle school and like you was in england or lancaster middle school we had just moved.
Speaker 2Let me see we moved to lancaster because of where we lived in la it was like now we could go outside before we couldn't. So, um, but I was, was in. I graduated sixth grade. So, yeah, I moved out there. Seventh, I did seventh, eighth, ninth and then we moved back to LA. For my 10th and 11th year, and I think a portion of my 11th. We went back to Lancaster.
Speaker 1What high school did you go to?
Speaker 2I went to Culver.
Speaker 1Interesting.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1That's where my boy Randy went.
Speaker 2Oh really.
Speaker 1Yeah, but he's older, like he, well, how old is he?
Speaker 2because I'm old too?
Speaker 1no, he's not old, he's like he graduated like 98 okay I'm not too far behind, yeah, so like he's a little bit older than so if he went to then he probably knows I got there when it was like class of 99, I think, or maybe 98.
Speaker 2I got there, yeah, 10th grade somewhere around there though okay, some of the people that I went to school with. Yes, my brother graduated in 2000. So, yeah, I was there for the 99s. I probably just missed him.
Speaker 1Yeah, you probably just missed him. He was probably, I think, san Diego, no, san Jose State, okay.
Speaker 2Okay.
Speaker 1Yeah, so he wound up going to San Jose State, but, but um, okay, so, yeah, so you know about the, the sentinels and the jets and shit like that. That was our rival. You know what I'm saying? Uh the bruins and uh the eagles, and he has a jack ruins now.
Speaker 2Yeah, yeah, it wasn't. Back then it was pop warner, we had junior banner. Yeah, tiny minus yeah pop warner was uh was a fun time, you know?
Speaker 1Yeah, like all those teams that we just mentioned. Those were our rivals. You know so every time we played. It was a hard fought game and we penciled them on a little schedule. The demos oh yeah, the demos, oh my God, Like they always have speed, but we always beat them.
Speaker 2Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm like we played. Who did we play? It was the Sheriffs and the demos was like we used to go at it in venice. Venice used to go at it with the cheerleaders. The football was like all right venice.
Speaker 1I never played venice as I played them in high school because when I got to carson we had just came off the uh championship against venice oh, okay and um, and then, uh, we got out the championship. But when then we played on that following season again, uh, we beat them again.
Speaker 1You know, shout out to carson right and uh, yeah, so like all those teams, like my uncle, he went to englewood high. Um, yeah, he was a stud. So, like when I was growing up uh, we're not that far in age I graduated like right after him, you know, but I was looking up to him because he was a few years older and I was like man, like he went to like three proms. Um, he, he went, he had a scholarship to from inglewoods. Uh, where did he go? He went to oklahoma, I think. Uh, I can't remember the fucking school he went to because he transferred out back home, but yeah, he wound up going to college doing his thing. The going away party was dope, I'm like oh shit, oh, you do those.
Speaker 2Okay, yeah, I want to be. You know it's always going on, yeah, it's going on.
Speaker 1You know what I'm saying. I want to be like. You know, shout out to Inglewood Pizzle. You know, shout out to Inglewood Pizzle. He do music now, or whatever. A friend of the show. Yeah, I wanted to be like shit when it came to football. I wanted to be like him, or whatever. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2So, yeah, yeah, so LA, yeah so LA Right LA, it's very different.
Speaker 1So your transition in Vegas. How's that been? Because I know people they either have a love for Vegas or they have a hate for Vegas, and you moved to Vegas when Vegas wasn't that special. No more, Right.
California Roots and Vegas Transition
Speaker 2Absolutely, because we used to come to Vegas for weekends just because. So moving here is very different than that experience. So, like I said, the first two years was rough for us. Once we started football, then things got easier. But I don't hate Vegas. I'm ready for something different, but that's just me. But my kids, they actually like it here. With football they built a family. My son has been playing. He's in 10U now so he's been playing since tackle football since 6U and we've been with our football team the whole way.
Speaker 2So it's the same coaches, so they love that. My daughter played flag football and cheer track, all of that, so we've grown to I mean it's cool. Yeah, it's cool. If I get an offer to go elsewhere, I just might take it.
Speaker 1Where else would you go, like what's like states or cities, whatever that Okay.
Speaker 2A lot whatever Texas. Okay, A lot of people love Texas. What part of Texas We've been looking into? Dallas and Houston.
Speaker 1Okay, okay, yeah, I can rock with that.
Speaker 2Yes, I'm like I got to make it to where I find something that benefits him with football. Because that's like what he loves. Same time, mom is happy and the daughter is happy, so it's been trying to figure out which place, which city, to go.
Speaker 1Okay, yeah, I mean, those are two good cities to go to if you add that into the mix.
Speaker 2Right right.
Speaker 1So going down Texas.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1Yeah, that's big time football, I know.
Speaker 2That's why I'm like I have to make it the best choice. And he runs track too. Yeah yeah, that's big time football, I know. That's why I'm like I have to like, make it the best choice.
Speaker 1And he runs track too.
Speaker 2Yes, so he's there with those kids. Yeah, it's different. It's like Vegas with LA and we're like damn, the kids like, but they train year round.
Speaker 1Yeah, yeah, you get to Texas and it's like whatever's in their water is what he needs a taste of. Yeah, yeah, for sure it's that. So. So how is it like being a a sports?
Speaker 2mom, like I'm not a mom.
Speaker 1So I don't know. Yeah, you know, because half the time I'm coaching I support the kids, but you know I'm a basketball dad but that's it. So when he's not doing basketball, like he might be training a little bit, but I'm chilling, you know lucky you.
Speaker 2no, it's around the clock. Once football stops, track picks up. When track stops, football goes, and sometimes they coincide with each other.
Speaker 1Yeah, like a couple weeks ago, right, yes, right exactly.
Speaker 2So we just finished track, we just finished regionals. He made it to regionals in the one and the two.
Speaker 1Okay.
Speaker 2It's a lot, I ain't gonna hold you. It's a lot, it is. I work nine five, so I'm working monday through friday and then I get off from work. It's, you know, whatever sport that they're doing on whatever days that they're doing. Majority of the time it's like three days out of the week and you have your events on the weekend so for football, it's going to be, you know the same deal.
Speaker 2And then with football, I am team moms, I like to be involved. I like to make shit run. Be you know the same deal. And then with football, I am team moms, I like to be involved, I like to make shit run smooth. Yeah, you know like I think it's needed, and then they're for the kids.
Speaker 1Shout out to all the team moms because I can say that you know it is a lot, you know and you know I ran teams before and like I had my own camps and stuff like that and you know I used to before. Like a long time ago when I first started coaching I started with the Longhorns.
Speaker 2Oh, okay, yeah.
Speaker 1So then it was like we didn't have no team up, no more. So then we went to I started my own thing with me and my guys. We stayed together, we just started our own thing, or whatever. And I had a dope teen mom then, and then I got a dope teen mom now.
Speaker 2Yes.
Speaker 1But shit, a teen mom plays a big part. Yeah, and it's some shit. I've seen shitty teen moms, right. But if you got a good teen mom, look y'all can get whatever. You know what I'm saying, yeah.
Speaker 2It helps. I think you know what I'm saying. Yeah, it helps, I think it helps the program run a lot easier if parents talk to teen moms. They don't have to talk to coaches. Coaches can worry about coaching like you know anything that's needed for registration, whatever it is, it's like, directed to them first, and then let them be the ones to come and talk to the coaches, because who the hell wants a million people in their face? And I'm here to coach your kid I don't want to have to keep talking to you.
Speaker 1Like, take it up with the team, mom yeah, yeah, because that's the last thing I hate. Like when I'm coaching, I'm like locked in, I'm in a zone, so I'm looking at, I'm looking at I might be looking this way, but I'm looking at every single player, what they're doing as you know and I'm so locked in. And then when, like, somebody start asking me questions and stuff, I'm like that's not okay.
Speaker 2This kid this kid and wait, I'm not focused on that I'm not looking at that and it happens a lot all the time.
Speaker 1Yeah it happened like two practices ago yeah, leave my coaches alone.
Speaker 2Yeah, don't talk to my coaches at all. The coaches are there to coach. You got a problem and then I'll let the coach know.
Speaker 1Yeah like, like. So now we I'm starting to have this 24-hour rule. If it's nothing serious, do not come to me until the 24 hours is up.
Speaker 2Then let me know if it's still an issue.
Speaker 1Yeah, you know go to the Teen Mom. I want everybody to respect Teen Moms and stuff like that. But if it's not serious, don't come to me. And it's kind of tricky this year because, as you know, we had multiple teams come together.
Speaker 2Right.
Speaker 1So on top of navigating through coaching, you got to navigate through everybody fitting in and playing their parts and everybody getting along and stuff like that. I had shit when that happened too. It's times when I merged with other camps. You know what I'm saying. So you got to win in Rome. Do as Romans, right.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1But here everybody had their own thing going on.
Speaker 2Everybody came together.
Speaker 1So you got to make it fit. You know what?
Speaker 2I'm saying it's just little puzzle pieces.
Speaker 1Yeah, little puzzle pieces pieces, and sometimes it takes a little time and that's what I keep saying it's like little humps in the road that we have to get over every.
Speaker 2I don't expect for everything to go smooth in the beginning, because it's the beginning, right? No, I don't. Even when we were just us the same, the next year was like okay, we got to work through these little kinks here I. I don't expect for things to be like that, I just like my thing is communication, Communicate.
Speaker 1Let me know what's going on.
Speaker 2I'll let you know what's going on. We communicate here Boom. I like solve the problem If there's a problem, let's get the solution.
Speaker 1I'm 100% the same way. Like I don't need to be the head of something. You know what I'm saying. No, it's not important. Like I'm cool, like I got a million things going on, I don't need to be, you know, the top chief, the Indian Right. You know what I'm saying. I don't need to be nothing. You know what I'm saying. I don't need no title, I just need communication. No, last minute shit, yes, and so, like I like order Me too.
Speaker 1Grew up um a lot of like my old g's and my coach, even my coaches, they, they had structure, you know, growing up, so they kind of, they kind of installed that in me and then like, like, even, like I said, my old g's, they're all like black mob, you know what I'm saying so, like everything is a structure yeah, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1So like, for example, my boy randy, my boy tone okay, if this is the dynamic, even though I might, I play ball, play ball. You know what I'm saying. I played past high school, past college, all that stuff, right Past, like that adult recreational bullshit, you know what I'm saying. Like I actually paid and got paid to play. You know what I'm saying. So you know I don't give a fuck about none of this shit. I give a fuck about what we do and we that's what I've been saying.
Speaker 1Yeah, like we can all agree. The proof is in the pudding I have seven kids. That's in college or just graduated college. That's my accomplishment. You know what I'm saying? This other shit is menace. It's small, it really is, and so that's the tricky part, especially when it's too many people involved. You know when it's too many people involved when they say too many Chiefs.
Speaker 1Yep, not enough Indians. You know what I'm saying and when it's too. Even with our team last year you got too many people talking and you know saying one thing and it confuses other people, and then you know, and then I always got to play clean up and shit and you know it's a lot, it's a lot.
Speaker 2We joined the track team last year and I was team on there too, and I ended up quitting. I don't ever quit, Baby fuck.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2Fuck ASAP. Yeah, what I had to do was it was too much. And then you start when you give Mind you we're volunteering. Hey, some people. I know I'm not. So, I'm volunteering my time and I like for things to run Like. This is my way to showing up for my son and showing up for others too, that's just me.
Speaker 1People don't realize like being the fact that we don't get paid. Even the money that we do see like it goes right back into the shit. So let's think about it, okay. If let's think about it. Okay. If you want to count time, if you want to say how much time that we give our time is valuable, especially people that's actually doing shit. Right, right, right right. Our time is so fucking valuable. And then you got the money that you pour into this shit.
Speaker 2Yes.
Speaker 1Right. Like I don't get like half the time I'm in the negative when it comes to like I always have a certain goal I'm going to spend for the year. Maybe I'm going to spend like $1,500, $2,000, whatever throughout the year, whatever, maybe more, maybe less, hopefully, and it always goes over. I always contribute three and my kids don't even play.
Speaker 2Okay, because I was about to say Three, four, five thousand.
Speaker 1Yes, Like I'm, new mouthpieces, new paths, new this helping out this kid registrates helping out this water. They don't even understand how much. Just little stuff like water pens. You know what I'm saying?
Speaker 2I said last year, I was like you know what we need to start, just like a fund you know, put it in the team fees for every person for the weekend, divvy it up. How the fuck are you going to do it?
Speaker 2I really don't give a shit, but put it in there so that there's a fun for this, there's a fun for this, there's a fun for that, there's a fun for that. So, when it comes time to your games, we're not shuffling around trying to figure out who's going to do this, who's going to do that, because putting together, for I do right. But like how did I get appointed to be the person to?
Speaker 1go and get all this shit.
Speaker 2Like what just happened here and I was like I told Aaron, don't ask me to do shit else until the season actually starts, that's the same thing I said.
Speaker 1I'm like dude, this is like.
Speaker 2A lot.
Speaker 1Yeah, we're telling people, you know.
Speaker 2but and then you got to run around, yeah, and then you got to run around, yeah, yeah, yeah, that's why I was like money is hard, yeah, they're not counting gas.
Speaker 1Do you have to keep volunteering? Look, I literally look. So I sold my other car and I just bought my car, just because I live southwest.
Speaker 2So I live like right across the street from the Durango.
Speaker 1So I'm coming. So I say my car is actually better, it's the car that I wanted you know what I'm saying. Okay, so like it's the car that I wanted, but I literally sold it instead of getting my trucks and all that stuff, because I work right here, all my business stuff is right over here. Oh yeah, you know what I'm saying. So look the podcast studios.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1I work at the airport. I'm right here studios all over the place.
Speaker 2But okay, like this is the best one.
Team Mom Life and Football Culture
Speaker 1Yeah, best out to the pot place. You know what I'm saying. You know they'll take care of you. You know, if you, if you want to start a podcast, come to the pot place you heard, right by, right by the airport. Get in, get out, you know and you could clip that please but it's a lot of.
Speaker 1It's a lot of time, effort, money. You know what I'm saying. Like, so I do a jersey business, right, okay, and um, and when we first all met, came together, I said, look, go through whoever you guys are going through, I don't want to.
Speaker 1I don't want to do you know your jersey because, like, I don't want to be responsible for a lot of people's money, that like that, if I'm not involved with the camp, cool, yeah, but let me just the teams that I deal with, I just take their. Yeah, because I know those parents. I don't know everybody's parents. I'll do them if you want me to but, I don't want to take other people's money.
Speaker 1You know saying because I'm not pressed for money, so I don't want to do that, and then it gets in a sticky situations or whatever the case is, or something like if going through Bobby or this apparel place or that place, stay there.
Speaker 1You know what I'm saying. But even with our team fees, I had to consciously think when I came up with it okay, this is what the uniform, this is what this is, this is what that. And then I'm going to put the banquet fee and trophy fee included in there. That way we don't have to scramble fundraise, do all that at the end?
Speaker 2No, it all comes in. The.
Speaker 1Thing and I'm still trying to make it affordable because I know half these kids parents, some don't have it and then some just don't budget right. So I think, okay, I'm telling the teams that I coach 180, anybody else they could, whatever you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2Let me know if you guys need a fundraiser.
Speaker 1Yeah, I need to talk to you about that too. Let me plug myself. Yeah, I need to talk to you about that too. We'll talk off mic. We need a couple because we travel. Okay, okay, okay. That's why we're not doing some of the tournaments in town because we'll be in Arizona.
Speaker 2So you're with Coach Peanut then.
Speaker 1He's with the 11s.
Speaker 2Okay, 11. Okay, okay, okay so.
Speaker 1I'm with the babies, so I'm with the 6s and 7s or whatever, but we used to be with them. We all used to be together last year.
Speaker 2Okay, because I was going to say I know he told me that he was going to be in Arizona. Yeah, so our 7s is going with the 11s to Arizona.
Speaker 1Our 6s is staying here here we might take a couple, but okay, you know, and in our age, that they get enough kids, but it's good. Yeah, that experience that's a. That's another fee, though that's another part. You know, because when I go out there, I'm, you know, I'm a black cowboy, so shout out to concrete cowboys and, um, we go out and do our thing out there. You know, because I'm not having all the stay at one hotel.
Speaker 1I got my hotels and I I reserve a hotel, for if the parents want to stay there, you hotel, I got my hotels and I reserve a hotel for if the parents want to stay there, you guys just get here.
Speaker 2If you need help getting there.
Speaker 1We'll help you out getting there.
Speaker 2We just need you there.
Speaker 1And then at night we'll plan something for the kids. But when it's bedtime, you know you should be with your parents or your guardian and stuff or all the kids could be in one spot, you know what I'm saying, that chaperone, yeah, they will have a chaperone there, and then I'm going to just enjoy myself, because guess what. I give too much damn time to it.
Speaker 2I was going to say you don't have any kids here.
Speaker 1No, yeah, my son is like chilling Half the time. I'm like you want to go to practice with me.
Speaker 2No.
Speaker 1It, or like all last year, like he'll come to practice with me, you know, because he don't even live with me, Like you know we live on two different sides of town and when he comes to practice with me like he'll just go to the basketball court to shoot basketballs the whole entire time I'm at practice.
Speaker 2So it's a win for him.
Speaker 1Yeah, it's a win, but like sometimes it might not be nobody at the courts. Yeah, you know it's kind of boring, so kind of boring. So now you gotta come watch us and you know it's not his thing. Yeah, so let's. Let's get on business and stuff, right so my business.
Speaker 2I see that you're doing your thing. I see that you travel, do all that stuff like tell us about that. So I have a travel company. I've been in business with that since 2018 okay, shout that shit out, man yes, candid excursions travel with my candid travelers. Yes, my favorite thing to do with travel is group trips. I love to host the trip.
Speaker 1I wish I would have met you like 10 years ago. Man, because we used to do cruises.
Speaker 2Oh really.
Speaker 1Group cruises. Why'd you stop? A lot of people have families and stuff, you know.
Speaker 2uh, it was me myself and my uncle doing it, and so we called it the love cruise let's get it back and yeah, we need to and like let's get it back going, get a whole bunch of people book on carnival cruise.
Speaker 1I'm a carnival loyalist. Sorry to interrupt you. No, no, no, but yeah, we could plan. We could definitely plan something.
Speaker 2Yeah, I'm going to make some money yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay. So yeah, that's pretty much what it is, and I've gotten into hosting more. I still book and customize trips for others to go out of state, whether you're in country, you tell me there's an event that you want to celebrate. You need me to customize a trip for you from the beginning to the end. I do that, Okay the beginning to the end.
Speaker 2I do that. The other business that I have is Supermom Hustle. It's pretty much just bridging the gap between being a single parent and entrepreneurship. I wrote my e-book. It's 31 different hustles single mother. It's pretty much in there. It's just telling you different ways to make some side money.
Speaker 1Where can they find that e-book?
Speaker 2It is on my website, supermomhustlecom okay, we'll plug it in the yes, we'll get them. We'll get it down there, yes, yep, so in there is just uh 31 ways for you to make some side money okay, all right.
Speaker 1And what about the guys? Who you know they're gonna ask me, so you know what I'm saying you know no I have to talk shit no, okay all right. So you got your, your travel business. You know, I travel for free do you?
Speaker 2yeah, at the airport. Yeah, I've been there for a long time. I'm trying to get on your way yeah, like you know.
Speaker 1So like, okay, you can set up an event.
Speaker 2Yes, I can just fly out you know, so like okay, you can set up an event?
Speaker 1Yes, I can just fly out there, you know. Shout out to my employer? Right, Because nine times out of ten I get paid to do my business at work.
Speaker 2Oh, so you're good. Yeah, I'm chilling.
Speaker 1I'm on my laptop every day, right you know, watching other guys play the PlayStation.
Speaker 2You're good. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, you're good. Yeah, I like a, a free, free air flight. What that?
Speaker 1that's the like me and my mom, whoever like we could just, I could just get on.
Speaker 2If I wanted to go somewhere right now, I could just, yeah, I could just jump on yeah, I'm trying to get on your way, but then I have these, these two things called children, and then they stop the flow that does stop, oh my goodness yeah it does, it stops the flow.
Speaker 1That's pretty much why there's no man there's no time I was just about to ask you, like, you know, is it? I'll only imagine, not only with the time, but like with everything that you do, like the dating life probably gets a little tricky.
Speaker 2It does, it's not, so it's not actively dating. I'm not, but I love a good date, but I like the dates that are like a weekend date.
Speaker 1So you like the weekend little getaways? I do. Where do you have time for that? They don't even have to be.
Speaker 2We could be here, I've had. I should be telling on myself, but let me tell on myself.
Speaker 1Hey, that's what it's for right.
Speaker 2Right, I like to talk to men that are out of town. They come in, they'll fly in and plan a weekend.
Speaker 1Okay, and we hang.
Speaker 2All I have to do is just show up, and I think these are men who understand their good father's number one. But they understand what I do and they respect it, so I don't have to do anything.
Speaker 1It makes sense, you know.
Speaker 2I like that. I'm not going to accept anything less than that. So if you're asking for my time, I'm not going to be like, oh, and I'm a planet too, Like. That sounds stupid to me.
Speaker 1Okay, and I don't like stupid shit, so you like guys that is going to plan to just be there. You're intentional, yeah.
Speaker 2Yeah, that shows me that you want to date. And if you don't know what I like to do, then clearly you don't know me because you haven't asked. And then you can ask, and then I can tell you.
Speaker 1But for a lot of men do you run into the problem of being the fact that you know you got your entrepreneur? You got this entrepreneur and then you turn around literally from one thing that you're doing to the next thing. You're always around. Man, do you ever like run into that roadblock right there, like they have a problem or they feel some type of way about it?
Speaker 2no, I, and I say that because of me okay, how I am, um, I don't give off the come talk to me vibe like that's not the vibe. At least I hope I don't. They don't be talking to me. I think I set the boundary for it, so I don't be talking to me. I think I set the boundary for it, so I don't think that the men that I've dated are worried about it.
Speaker 1Okay, well, that's good, because you know we talk to a lot of women on here and so a lot of times the obstacle, especially if she's busier you know, entrepreneur or even kid. One thing is always like a lot of times it's's either the kids like they don't see where they fit in it or or it's the fact that maybe they're in a space where it's a lot of male access.
Speaker 1So you know, I'm saying so, they always, they always tell me, they tell the viewers, I guess, uh, that they sometimes they might have that problem because the people that I guess, maybe the people that they attract, I don't know but sometimes they might have a problem with the guys because they feel like, damn, you're around all these people, I can see that, but that's to me is an insecure man okay, and so if you, if you're confident in who you are, you're secure in who you are and this person that you're getting to know, or this person that you do know, then that's not really a factor.
Speaker 2You know, like I, I feel like men who do that are scared of something, but are you afraid of? Yeah you know what I mean I did. It's my last relationship, um, and I was around, you know, like millionaires, just my mentor and the people that he knew in his circle and just networking pretty much. And there was a comment that he knew in his circle and just networking pretty much. And there was a comment that he made and it was just like they.
Speaker 2Like, I'm not worried about any, I'm trying to learn and I'm trying to learn at the end of the day I have children that I'm not too worried about what the hell is going on if I'm talking to a man it's talking to a man because there's a plan behind it, like I'm that type of person. I don't really pay any attention, and I also don't think that men are going to like come out and just be like, what the hell are you up here with? I don't tolerate that shit. I don't tolerate that.
Speaker 1I don't tolerate that shit. I mean, you're very intentional of what you. You know what you want.
Speaker 2Right.
Speaker 1But at the same time, like I don't think most men will ever tell you because, like they don't want to lose the opportunity of you know, yeah, and you should keep it to yourself.
Speaker 2You should, because I feel like the more you get to know me, you'll see like I'm. I don't give a fuck about that.
Speaker 1Yeah, yeah, because I never got that off of you. The times that we met like oh, it's just like you know. But you know, I just know that it'd be a lot of insecure motherfuckers.
Speaker 2Yeah, men, and women too, you know. Oh yeah, for sure the men who are out there and they have to talk to the mom, parents or even the team. It's just a lot, and I feel like you just have to be secure in what, who you are, and then you have to like really know your partner and what you're dealing with.
Speaker 1That plays a very yeah, and if you feel some shit is off.
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Speaker 2It probably is. So then you, you know what I mean. You correct that or allow that person to correct it. That's another reason why all that shit, that drama, like I got a million things going on. I'll be damned if I sit around trying to figure out who's he talking to. I don't have time for that. It's not my. I have better things to do.
Speaker 1What's a perfect day for you?
Speaker 2A perfect date.
Speaker 1Day.
Speaker 2Day.
Speaker 1We can go day two.
Speaker 2No, we're going to go day, we'll do day.
Speaker 1We'll do day two. We'll do after day. A perfect day for me is really in bed. I'm sleeping, yeah, sleeping.
Speaker 2With no children in my house, I can walk around however I like. I don't have to. This sounds shallow. I'm a mom, I don't give a shit.
Speaker 1I don't want my children at the house.
Speaker 2I want to be alone, by myself. I value that time to myself, so a perfect day for me would be to wake up and my children are not there, my home is clean, I'm in my bed. I get to watch my tv work on my laptop like I do what I want to do. That's why I like solo trips. Do what I want to do yes, yeah, that's.
Speaker 1That's. That's me. Like a perfect day is, like I could be able to just like a lot of things that I do, like I make money like, without having to be there you know, I'm saying like I mean, but then on the flip side, I do but um, but a perfect day, like yeah, like you just said, like just like I just get up, you know, doing push-ups. I'm a big tea drinker, I like tea you know I'm saying drink my tea and binge watch, like some of my favorite shit yeah yeah, all day.
Speaker 1I don't want to be bothered. You know I'm saying and like it's football state starting up all of a sudden. Like this shit consumes so much of my life, man Golly. I just like, really like, just chilling and podcasting. Really, you know, is it therapeutic? Podcasting is very therapeutic.
Speaker 2What's therapeutic about it?
Speaker 1You know I like listening. I I like listening, I like talking. Okay, I don't like people. Okay, most people can't tell that, but I don't like people.
Speaker 2Okay, me either.
Speaker 1I like to be just out the way. So podcasts we could just sit here and talk. Get the shit off. I'm a big advocate of therapy. I think everybody needs therapy.
Speaker 2I do too yeah.
Speaker 1And I'm scared of people who say that they don't. Yeah, you know, and it doesn't have to be seeing like a doctor or therapist or whatever. But you should probably find your thing that you could cope with, that you could get your shit off with you know what.
Speaker 2I'm saying yeah because it's needed. When people say that they don't need therapy, I just look ooh, I stay away from you.
Speaker 1Yeah, some people are like you know, they just chilling the house, don't bother. You know, smoking is their therapy. You know I'm saying like cool, but after a while what do you do they? Maybe they get in their thoughts. That's why you do mushrooms, and you know, and you know, uh, you know, uh, you know all the other shit here's what I learned from smoking smoking smoking weed is therapeutic, depending on why you're smoking.
Speaker 2It right. So if you're smoking it because you're stressed and the day has stressed you out cool. But when people smoke to cope with their everything, oh no, they got more issues.
Speaker 1That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2So I was that and it was like I had so much stuff to do. It was like okay, man, I want to tell you, these past few years have been crazy, and so I, I have to do what I have to do. And it's like okay, I'm, but I'm a person where I'm like I have to have control over it. So once I see myself like okay, you don't need to do that. Like that so now I'm cool, I'm cool yeah, I don't really.
Speaker 1I mean I don't really smoke, I mean I'm a cigar smoker, okay. So that's our man fellowship. I think manship fellowship as well. So my brother I'm going to call him my brother because he's my best friend he has the membership to the cigar. Even one of my coaches shout out to Dave Moore, he body builds and trains and stuff like that. Oh yeah okay, a little plug. I'm plugging a lot today, yeah you are.
Speaker 1I'm feeling frivolous, you know, but you know that's how when we talk like we go to cigar lounges. If I have a coach's meeting, like with my coaches now that I have now, like we're going to go to the cigar lounge and we're going to smoke, talk, chill, I like going chill, yeah, and like I'm bougie, so like some cigar lounges depend on the cigar lounge.
Speaker 2It has to have like a like a vip area area. Yeah, like the members only area.
Speaker 1Yes, whatever okay, I'm gonna find my way in there. I don't know it's about paying for it, because I'm not paying 150 a month for it, but I'm gonna find my way in there, yeah I'm gonna find my way in there. I'm gonna talk my way in there right, you know, I feel like I could talk anybody out of anything.
Speaker 2I like that, you feel like that.
Speaker 1Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 2That's confident.
Speaker 1Yeah, I have a lot of confidence. I'm not arrogant, but a lot of confidence.
Speaker 2No, you have to be confident in this world.
Speaker 1Yeah, so I feel like in life I did a lot of work on myself and I continue to work on myself. So, I'm coming out with an album. It's an R&B album. I don't sing, you know. So it's fully like producing you know all that shit, a lot of songs written by me, not all we got dope artists and like that's another part of my therapy.
Speaker 2Yeah, you know, it's like let me write shit.
Speaker 1I'm a great writer. I can't spill, though.
Speaker 2I can't spill for shit, but that's what spellcheck is for right. You have thoughts, I'm a great writer, you have thoughts.
Speaker 1The thoughts are count, yeah so I could write a fire ass song. I already got music out that I wrote with fire right, and so I write about real life shit and shit that people might be going through, especially like in the love shit. I probably should have been like a-.
Speaker 2A love doctor.
Speaker 1Yeah, okay, don't get me wrong, I be fucking up, I fuck up.
Speaker 2That's how you learn.
Speaker 1When I say I fucked up, I fucked up. Sorry to everybody, I fucked up, that's how you learn though I learn and I listen and I just try to get better with everything, and so, like I try to trans, I try to move that over to the music. So, like I used to do B-fire poetry too, like low-key when poetry was in, you know.
Speaker 2Usually songwriters, poetry rap, all of that, it was all. Yep, yep, yep Okay.
Speaker 1So, yeah, yeah, music is another part of the therapy but, I actually go see a therapist, though I'm proud of you. Yeah, my mom's a therapist too, is she? I would never go see my mom, though you shouldn't. It's biased yeah, that's how I told my mom. I said, mom, I love you, but you have, you're my mom, yeah. So, like my therapist, I need somebody that's gonna just tell me like you're gonna have somewhere in you talking to me, and I don't got no deep shit that go through.
Speaker 2You know what I'm saying, like but it's good to get it out yeah, you know, you just gotta talk.
Speaker 1I went to relationship counseling, I went, I did all kinds of shit like that okay, like I'm an advocate of that that's good, that's why, you know, but that's why I'd be so at peace, you know as you should.
Speaker 2There's some men out there that can use some fucking therapy they need it and when I bring it up, I don't need therapy you can be open minded.
Speaker 1I feel like there's two things in a man and I'm about to give you guys some game if you have an open mind to things. Now I'm not saying that funny business, but if you have an open mind to things, you know, you know funny.
Speaker 2Yeah, not that but if you got an open, mind to do.
Speaker 1Yeah, that's you a more power to you, but you're not over here. But if you're open to things like, you're able to learn more so if you're able to learn more. Like I feel like me, like some people could probably say I might be stubborn, but it's not that I'm stubborn, it's the fact that I'm a leo um, it's the fact that, like I'll learn something and like I'll stand on what I know, just like when I got into a little bit like we was talking about off off mic like you tried to tell me something now I could go.
Speaker 1I'm going. I'm only saying this because I can go back and put it to you in your face. So don't fucking talk to me about some shit if you know that I wouldn't have receipts and, like that specific person that I was telling you the other person that was stirring up shit, I have the receipts on that too. I'm just not a messy person yeah, right, you know I'm saying like you know, we keep everybody stay in their lane yeah, stay in your lane and then I have to call you out.
Speaker 1You know okay and that's what it is. So in life I'm like, okay, I'm always willing to learn, um, but a lot of people I get this bad notion, you know to people because I'm really conservative. You know what I'm saying. I believe in people should do the right thing. I believe in everybody has their own choice to do whatever fuck they want. Like I used to tell people I'm pro-life, pro-choice, so like if I have a child, if I get somebody pregnant, even if we're not together, like we're gonna keep, we going to keep that child Special, but I'm not going to tell nobody else to do with their body. I remember during I call it the scamdemic, but some people whatever the plandemic.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1I'm not politically correct. I'm never politically correct, but I call it the scamdemic. Some people that I hang out with call it the plandemic, and I remember they were even a little bit on my job. They were like, oh, you gotta get the shot. I'm like, absolutely not, you know what I'm saying. I don't you know but to. But whoever wants to get it, that's your business, that's that's.
Speaker 1I'm not I'm not telling you that you shouldn't get, or I'm not telling you that you should get it for me and for me in my household is this, if I'm gonna be a leader of my household, yeah and we doing what I stand on, because I'm gonna take in consideration what you feel, but we doing what I stand on because that's the how you lead right so that's just how I just run shit no, for real.
Speaker 2Yeah, that's how it was for us too. We didn't, we didn't, we didn't partake in it. Yeah, I don't do no flu shot.
Speaker 1I don't either I don't either like I never got like I never and I never get sick, and I'm not saying that oh yeah, all uh natural remedies work, but I'm more of a mattress like even when I get a headache like I don't even really take too much pills, because I grew up around a lot of junkies, you know saying a lot of people.
Speaker 2They like they started off with one thing and they led to another thing right and I understand how medicine works you know these days, so it's very different from when we were younger. You get your vaccines and or you, whatever it was medicine, everything. Now it's like pharmaceutical and it's how they can make their money, and so the more stuff that they push out is going to be the more stuff that people are going to get. It's addicting now. Now you got to pay for it. We're on herbs in my house. There's an herbal cabinet in there. We only use medicine if it is a dire need.
Speaker 1Yeah, and that's how it is with me, like I just don't, that's just me. I don't tell nobody else to do Right, do what you want to do.
Speaker 2But in this house. When you come over to my house, there's not going to be. I think we only have one thing of Motrin and I have Advil.
Speaker 1They're like the little packets from when we put together our little girls trip bag, that's like that's it. Yeah, that's it.
Speaker 2That's it that's it. There's too much, it's too much, and then to be feeding it to the kids is too much.
Speaker 1Yeah, I told my son's mother. I said, look, he might get hurt, even during the scandemic, whatever I get that they're pushing this on him. But nah, if we had to, we'll keep him homeschooled. You know what I mean. But I had to make the conscious decision of how I'm going to run my house. But, like I said, anybody else they can do what the fuck?
Speaker 2they want. I know a girl that got 30 abortions.
Speaker 1I don't even say nothing. I said, hey, more power to you.
Speaker 2I want to say something.
Speaker 1Yeah, like you know, that's your body, your choice. She a thing girl. She literally got 30 abortions. Ah she just had her first kid, like a year ago.
Speaker 2She was still able to have them.
Speaker 1That's what I thought.
Speaker 2I'm like after a while shit, it's like it's like you know, with certain uh like if you get like uh like certain things like the I'm thinking of scar tissue yeah, yeah, yeah, no, 30, literally. She literally got 30 like 30 and then you wanted to have one fucking after the first or second one. You didn't think that you wanted to protect your body.
Speaker 1Yeah, I would have just thought about other shit. Like you know, like you know she needed a hobby.
Speaker 2Yeah, she did, she needed a hobby.
Speaker 1Well, she grew up in, she kind of grew up in Vegas, but before Vegas she grew up in a real small town. So they don't? She got here Like she got here, it got hot. You know what I'm saying, you know. You know that's the vegas. That's the magic that they put on you in vegas yeah, you know, you know you get out here they say, um 82 percent of women are prostitutes I believe it that's why I want to leave before my kid gets too old, my daughter especially before she gets too old.
Speaker 2Like it's, this is not a place to raise children no, no once they get to like high school. It's not a place to raise children and kudos to those who have, but for me and my household it's not something that I feel like, oh, I can raise my kids here and not have to worry about. I mean, like it's everywhere, right, but here is. This is where it's at.
Speaker 1Oh yeah, yeah, it's where it's at. I used to do a lot of investigations before I worked there. I used to work at it's Diversion now, but Hard Rock and I wrote over in the time being there there. I was there for six years. I wrote over 200 trick roll reports, you know. You know what a trick roll is right, no see it's when a prostitute robs the like the john or whatever.
Speaker 1But people don't know that prostitution is illegal in clark county yes so a lot of times they come to vegas and they think you know, because vegas has some of the most beautiful women you know, what I'm saying, but on the flip side of that, most of the time a lot of those beautiful women are working in some capacity and so, yeah, it's like 205, something like that. When I left, I wrote a lot, you know that's crazy and then you gotta evict the John.
Speaker 1You got to evict him from the room because you just engaged in something that was illegal, and so we got to evict him out the room. And then they wanted to press charges. And then we got to bring Metro in, but Metro will cite you, sometimes depending on the officer, because prostitution is illegal in Clark County. So then you have to come back for the court date and say but most people don't want to because they might be from Cleveland, nebraska, but they might have a wife.
Speaker 1Nine times out of ten they do Okay. So, they come out here and live their fairytale and then, especially like the guys in the oil industry, oh yeah, they'll live their fairytale and then they'll fucking.
Speaker 2That's so crazy. Because all I've been wanting to know is how much money do they be making?
Speaker 1I could tell you, especially the ones in the hotel, the ones that's in the hotel, I could tell you, the average one was charging anywhere from $1,200 to $1,600 a pop.
Speaker 2Okay.
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Speaker 1I'm not mad at that. So if you don't have to do it and you rob them for that, that's their mindset, right, right. And then you get three of those a night.
Speaker 2You're a good night. It's a good week.
Speaker 1You might come back with $10,000 in one day, plus a Rolex.
Speaker 2Yeah, there you go, you can pawn that, I've seen girls put Rolex and Wazza cats in their cat, what?
Speaker 1Yeah, we had to have a female. Metro officer, come, pull it out, what? Take them to the bathroom and pull it out, because once we used to get them if we catch the prostitute, we used to have this booking room. It looked like a jail cell. It was crazy.
Speaker 2Oh, my God.
Speaker 1It had a whole bunch of cameras. You're sitting there watching and then, like the officers, they got to watch, and then they got to wait for metro. And then you're sitting there, handcuffs on the bench and everything right, this girl, they, they was running the steam. Ice was running the steam. Well, you know, here um ice dealt with the prostitutes too.
Speaker 1They don't just deal with deportation right and so they'll be undercover and the girl will take them to the room. As soon as they get in the room, it'll be the other officers that bring them down. Pop, pop, pop, you know what I'm saying. Or, if we catch them, you know, we got to trespass so we got to take them into the room, this kind of dude. He came running down butt naked in the hotel. She was sliced and diced and the girls two of them took off. They was track stars. Right, the other girl, the other two. We caught them, and so they was sitting in that processing room for six hours. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2Yeah, and pulled it out.
Speaker 1Well, they had to take her to the bathroom, pull out the water cans, and she had a Rolex up there too.
Speaker 2Like no joke. That's why see, because that's not my type of life.
Speaker 1God knew what he was doing. Yeah, yeah, he made me a mom. So now it's like damn, like you can't even smash women the same like you know not to say like that, because it's like damn, not only is she putting dicks inside her, she might, she might put any like and I've seen girls put like at the pool party.
Speaker 1Remember rehab the pool yes, like that's where I started, at right I used to see girls like you know they'd be in the cabanas dudes put cucumbers and um champagne bottles and stuff. They'll do it for an athlete. You'll be. You'll be shocked how much shit somebody would do for for a rich motherfucker, especially back in the day when rehab was like lit Popping.
Speaker 2Rehab was popping, yeah, but what?
Speaker 1Yeah, especially if Diddy was there. This was before the case. This was before the case. He used to sell it like we used to get the capacity and people would hire cabana wars 20, 30, 40, 50 thousand dollars for a cabana Okay, and me? I'm like I'll just spend that on a cruise.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1Yeah, we used to do big cruises like the Love Cruise. That's all I was telling you about. I needed you 10 years ago, right, we used to have our own private rooms, have our own DJs and stuff. We had our own DJs Theme parties every night.
Speaker 2Yeah, we're going to have to get that back going.
Speaker 1Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2I like hosting it's fun. I like playing around, you know.
Speaker 1I got another project that I'm running that I might need you on. I'm going to need you on. So for this album I'm throwing an event, okay, and so if somebody copies me we got it on tape and I pretty much got it on camera, but it's called. My album is called the R&B album. I was telling you I'm coming out with everything too. So the album this is the baby is called what a Time. Okay, right. So I'm giving you every essence of R&B. Got great artists. I might let you listen.
Speaker 2I'll send you a song, okay because that's what I was about to say. Is it a secret?
Speaker 1I'll send you a song that you'll like. I think you'll like this song, okay. So we got every essence of R&B, so we called it With a Time Okay, fully produced, elevated, one network. You'll see it on the thing. I'll send it to you when it comes out. It should be out this end of the next month or end of July. So with that, we're taking that album, the artist on that album, and we're doing the show so the way we're going to do.
Speaker 1The show is going to be comedy and r&b and the show is going to be called what a night. So the way that what a night is going to go is we're going to have my podcast open for it. So we'll open. I probably have some other, you know, obviously hosts we'll kind of lean into like the gender war type of thing. You know what I'm saying. But to me it's not a war. I just try to bring when I have panels, I try to bring men and women together so we can understand each other.
Speaker 2I like that. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1But a lot of times, sometimes it gets gender war-ish. You know what I'm saying. But whatever, it's fun, you know it's good for content, right. But I try to shut that shit down because we're not fresh and fit.
Speaker 2Right, right, right, let's not do that.
Speaker 1Yeah, you know, I just what I feel or what I think I stand on, and I just say that. But you know I'm open and listening, you know, and I think that men should hear women, how women think and how they feel about certain things, and we should hear and vice versa.
Speaker 2You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1The lady should hear, that's how you learn and grow right, because a lot of times women have this false notion that you know, no offense, but you guys get this false notion that, oh, because, like in life, I've been treated this way. So that's how life really is.
Speaker 1You get what I'm saying. Or like my grandma used to always tell me she said a woman's not mature until she turns 50. And I said I thought grandma used to always tell me she said a woman's not mature until she turns 50. And I said I thought it used to be the other way around. I thought, man, I said, well, technically we ain't immature until we really make it right, but we still immature. And so I never got into it until I got older and it made more sense. Because, for example, let's say, you're getting hit on by all these guys, all these guys want to be with you, right? You're buying yourself doing this shit. That's as far as your maturity is going in a dating realm right.
Speaker 1And so most women. Their maturity is really 21. I can see that you know what I'm saying, so they might carry themselves as a woman, but their logic and the way they maneuver and the way they think is not such. Yeah, when I got older, I got it.
Speaker 1You know what I'm saying, and so I tried to bring that common balance, like, okay, let's hear how they think, and vice versa. But I got sidetracked. The show is going to have a podcast, it's going to have that album being performed, basically, and then we're going to have a B-list or a legacy act that's not as famous as the main act, which is going to be a legacy act still too, okay. And so in between we'll have a comic music, another comic, the main act, and then we'll have we'll close out with the main R&B act, okay, or whatever. And then you know what a time. You know you guys have a good time what a time you know you guys have a good time upscale.
Speaker 1I wouldn't say upscale, but casual you know, everybody gets sexy the women get sexy, right, the man get dapper. You know I'm saying um. You know we just all vibes is going right, you know and everybody promote they shit, you know, and yeah yeah, I'm down for that yeah, so I gotta get you involved in that yeah, yeah, I like to hear other people's perspectives.
Speaker 2I think that's how we learn, like you said, being open-minded, right.
Speaker 1Yeah, I think you should come on one of my other podcasts when I have a panel. We'll plan it around your schedule Because I think you have great things to say when it comes down to how you maneuver and how you think. Even just that you prefer dating men out of town. You know and I got it once you said it, it makes perfectly sense.
Speaker 2People don't be in this man and that they don't but it makes perfectly good sense you know, you know, I think people don't understand because it's territorial.
Speaker 1A lot of people are territorial, you know, so they think like, okay, well, if that person's out of town, I don't know what that person's doing, blah, blah yada, yada, yada. Or I'm not going to get the same type of affection.
Speaker 2love, blah, blah, blah and you're not, and that was the whole point of it.
Speaker 1Yeah, get your space.
Speaker 2Yeah, trust me, I get it Right, because I'm like, I see him every day Back in the day.
Speaker 1You don't have time to give it every day. That's why I used to like being a side dude back in the day.
Speaker 2You're a thot, though that's thot behavior.
Speaker 1That was when I was young. I was a kid.
Speaker 2So now that you're older, do you still feel thotty?
Speaker 1No Okay, no, no, no, no no.
Speaker 2Some people are like reformed thots.
Speaker 1Okay, maybe I'm a reformed thot.
Speaker 2Accountability. I like accountability, I like that. Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's okay good rats need love too now I try to.
Speaker 1I try to keep it. I get in trouble, don't get me wrong, but I try to keep it you're a leo. Yes, you do you know, I try to keep it one woman, one woman man I don't feel all right, let me all right, what you're gonna say, what don't you feel?
Speaker 2I feel like men are not meant to be and they're going to hate me for this, but men are not meant to be with one woman, like, if he, if he chooses to do that, kudos to him.
Speaker 2Right, you're going to make a woman happy, but I don't feel like and this is just my experience Like you said, we can only speak on what we've experienced, like and this is just my experience, like you said, right, we can only speak on what we've experienced. Um, my experience is men are not meant to be with one woman and, um, it it's something that it doesn't bother me, as long as you're honest and you're saying what it is, of course, and I get intentional saying you know, what I mean, like, do I want to be involved in that or do I not?
Speaker 2um, especially right now, like I, if I'm dating you and I'm expecting for you to date other people, because I'm not going to be able to give you 100, so that's what I expect for you to do. I dated this one dude and he was just like I don't date other women when I'm dating one person, okay, well, that's I don't think you should.
Speaker 1I think that's kind of tricky, that's scary. I feel sorry for you I think that when you're dating and you're in a dating realm you should date to see who you want to be with. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2Then you make the mutual decision to be exclusive.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2You know, I don't know, but I don't feel like men are to be with one woman.
Speaker 1I'm not going to agree or disagree with that.
Speaker 2Your little free reign right there.
Speaker 1That's some free gain, that's some nuggets. I'm not gonna definitely yeah, you know most.
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Speaker 2I don't think it's in your nature.
Speaker 1Yeah, it's just not in the nature to do it. You know what? Because, like, I'm gonna say this and I'm gonna let you, I'm gonna ask you one more question and I'm gonna get us the fuck out of here okay, but. I feel that. I feel that since men and women are wired different, the way we love is different.
Speaker 2Agreed.
Speaker 1So with that statement I could agree with it, because I know a lot of men that's married or in long-term relationships and a lot of times what happens is one person may get comfortable right and and I'm not saying this is me, I'm just speaking for men in general right and so a person can get comfortable. And so now, like you love that person, you're going to provide for that person, you're going to want to do for that person right but then that person is not meeting you in the middle of what you want.
Speaker 1A lot of times there's no compromise, yeah so, or like they're like. They say like once you get married, your sex, your sexual life, goes down right. Right, that's so sad and so a lot of guys they deal with that. You know I work with 800 men and women in just my department and a lot of them are in sexless relationships, right, a lot of them happen to be married and these are guys that's making well over six figures and so they don't have the confidence and shit. So a lot of times it will be somebody else that's willing to do it, but they don't want to be with that person, but they get that shit off.
Speaker 2It's a need that's being fulfilled and that's why when they say, like men, cheat physically women cheat emotionally.
Speaker 1Yeah, that's how it is.
Speaker 2And it's a need that's being filled right. We're emotional creatures, we're nurturers by nature. I got a little better. God like made me a woman here and was, but I'm like the way that I think and process.
Speaker 1Things is like very masculine, yeah, um.
Speaker 2So that's why I'm like okay, I can understand where men are coming from. I might not agree with how shit is handled, but like I get it.
Speaker 1I get it. I understand. I'm not telling no man to go out and please don't yeah.
Speaker 2Save your life, but.
Speaker 1I get it because, like I said, most of the time let's say the side girl, the casual encounter that you're having with another woman, especially if you're doing it cleanly, like you're not thinking that you want to build her a house, You're thinking that you want to build you know what I'm saying the other woman a house she might be easier to get shit off of.
Speaker 1I'm like you could talk about shit, because you might not be able to talk about shit to your woman A lot of times. That's what it is. You can't tell your woman anything regardless.
Speaker 2That's sad.
Speaker 1If you tell your woman everything, it might be a little problem there.
Speaker 2I don't know.
Speaker 1You shouldn't tell your woman everything, because she can't relate.
Speaker 2most of the time I was told years ago not to let my right hand know what my left hand was doing and I was like what? That doesn't make any sense. What? But the older that? I get it's like okay this person doesn't need to know everything that you're doing. But then I also still feel like well, how the hell is this supposed to be? Because I only want to marry my best friend.
Speaker 1It should be a communication level. It should be a level of where we have a lot of understanding, yeah. So like, for example, if I'm going through some shit, like if it's not nothing, that's like emotionally fucking with me, if I know that I got to figure it out, I'm not going to tell you, because I'm supposed to be your rock, not the other way around. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2I feel that. But that's men, that's a man thing, yeah.
Speaker 1But I'm not saying that you can't come to your woman or stuff because you should be able to Right, right, right, but you should, Like, you can tell her and after a while, like she starts sounding like Charlie Brown to her, Like she's like wah, wah, wah, wah, wah. I don't even want to hear the solution.
Speaker 2Yeah, that's too many problems. What have you solved yet?
Speaker 1Yeah, I tell guys like this the box get dry if you come whining to her about everything you know and that's a Like women don't get turned on by that kind of shit. She don't want you like always having to be on her shoulder and shit. No, you know what.
Speaker 2I mean, if there's a period of time where you have to, I get it, but like a constant. I'm looking at a man as a leader and I have to tell my son this it's just me and him, like a leader, leads, we follow everything that you do right and he's a leader.
Speaker 1So everything that you do right. So, and he's a leo, so he's very big.
Speaker 2On that pride, shout out to your son okay, he's very prideful, so I have to explain it to him. You getting emotional, then we're going to be emotional, and then then what you know. So you have to be able to keep that in check. But a leader always has. You have a problem. You don't have to go to other people.
Speaker 2Come to mommy yeah, mommy will help you with your problem, because you can't whine about it yeah whining is for excuse my language, but bitches yeah, whining is for bitches, yeah you know and you're not that, so we don't whine. You tell mommy what the problem is, and then we're gonna come up with a solution to fix it. This is how you have to handle your shit through life you can't go whining and complaining about stuff and you giving me all these problems. You know what's the solution that you've come up with. Son, like are you a problem solver?
Speaker 1I've been teaching you how to critically think what's, but a lot of moms don't teach them, because they teach them how to be their boyfriend rather than a leader yep, well, yeah, you're gonna lead. No offense, that's a lot of single moms. They teach their sons how to be the man that they want them to be like, like for them and I see that yeah like I call them, the mommy boyfriends yeah, no three go.
Speaker 1We're gonna get the hell out of here. Three goals that three two-year goals that you want to do three two-year goals.
Speaker 2I want to be able to number one live comfortably. Okay, so that is just my business, flourishing, so we can live comfortably financially. My second goal within two years, I would like to be in love, like oh, that type shit, I don't know. It's a goal, though, and then I'd say my third goal is to continue to build my relationship with my children okay um, because that's not easy when it's just the one parent doing it all absolutely so just you know that's important to me and my kids probably be like she's crazy I am, but that's most important to me it happens like that sometimes
Speaker 1yeah and what's some advice that you'll give to men and women just in dating and entrepreneurship?
Speaker 2Just be honest with yourself, okay, and always bet on yourself.
Speaker 1Yeah, absolutely, yeah, absolutely. We're going to have to clip that part up. Any shout outs that you want to give.
Speaker 2Shout out to my tie because thank you for making this possible.
Speaker 1Yes, thank you. I've been busy and even holding it down.
Speaker 2Yeah, yeah, yeah and shout out to you guys too, Thank you.
Speaker 1I appreciate you.
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