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Finding Yourself First: From Marriage to Self-Discovery
Marilyn returns to share her insights on dating, relationships, and personal growth after moving from Cuba to Las Vegas and navigating life after a 13-year marriage.
• Dating in Las Vegas isn't uniquely challenging—similar issues exist everywhere in the modern dating world
• Learning to be comfortable with being single has been a new and valuable experience after years of relationship-hopping
• Setting and maintaining clear boundaries is essential for healthy relationships
• Energy and presence matter more than looks or money when it comes to attraction
• Building a relationship with someone who's growing versus someone already established offers different challenges and rewards
• Texting others while in a relationship can be more hurtful than physical cheating because of the emotional connection being built
• Women should embrace their feminine energy in relationships rather than competing with masculine energy
• Honesty is the foundation of any healthy relationship—if someone doesn't like your truth, they're not your person
• The right person deserves space in your life, but they have to earn it through commitment and loyalty
Baby girl. You are so pretty, pretty, pretty pretty, baby girl. You are so pretty, pretty, pretty pretty Females. Might you just touch me, touch me, touch me. Elevated Talks and the scenes. You got your boy Standout in the building. You got a returning guest, special guest, marilyn. Marilyn. Tell them where you from, tell them what's up, man, they want they. Hey look, they begged me to have you back on here, the fans. They begged me to have you back on here, the fans. They begged me to have you back on. So what's up? What's going on? How you been.
Speaker 2:Good, can't complain. Just good, keep working and focus at home and nothing new, just the same.
Speaker 1:I feel like that's like a cliche answer. You know what I mean. I feel like you took a trip.
Speaker 2:I did.
Speaker 1:Wait, wait, let's rewind. Let's rewind. Tell the viewers where you from.
Speaker 2:Cuban. I moved from Cuba here to Vegas in 2009, always been in Vegas, not that I like it, just that I choose to. And yeah, so I went to Cuba this year beginning of the year March. It was good. It was good yeah.
Speaker 1:No, it's.
Speaker 2:I have family Still my dad and siblings are there and we were going, actually my family, my mom and my sister and the babies. We were going to Cuba to bring my mom, my grandma, here.
Speaker 1:Okay, so going to Cuba, like coming from Cuba, I mean, what made you move out of all places? Because, like most people I know, come from like Cuba and they go to like Miami or you know somewhere in Florida, new York, and stuff Like what made you come to Vegas?
Speaker 2:I love Florida. I love Florida Me too, vegas because my ex-husband was a musician and then he had friends that leave here and and actually offer him a job. So definitely was better used to start with something okay, so you got into that. You moved because of the ex-husband, that's pretty nice, we came together, okay, thank you and then, like your mom and everybody came along with I brought them in, so yeah okay, okay, and then you have a sister, correct?
Speaker 1:I do have okay, I think I met your sister before you met my sister.
Speaker 2:That's how we met. Yes, yes, it's a fun story yeah, yeah, yeah, okay.
Speaker 1:So how do they like Vegas?
Speaker 2:You know, I don't know. I haven't asked that question to be honest, I don't know. I know my mom loved Florida. Every time we can, we go to Florida. Okay, Not to move in because it's too expensive honestly, but Florida, it's my place to go. Maybe once I retire, who knows, what part of Florida is your favorite I like West Palm Beach. Okay, but definitely.
Speaker 1:Miami yeah, I have a lot of friends and family. That's why.
Speaker 2:Honestly, that's why I don't even know. I've never been in like a crazy Miami life. I've never experienced that. I always go visit family and friends.
Speaker 1:So you don't go partying in Miami? No, to be honest, no, you don't do the club scene, nothing like that.
Speaker 2:Nope, nope, that's my plan for this summer.
Speaker 1:Ah, okay, so you want to have a hot girl summer? Let's see, maybe. Well, hey, have fun with that. I hope you fulfill that. You know what I mean. So let's get back to moving to Vegas. You moved to Vegas with your ex-husband. You guys were I remember you telling us on the last show, but you guys were married. For how long?
Speaker 2:Like almost 13, well, together, since we met, it was our date in like 13 years, yeah.
Speaker 1:Okay, so you guys were together for 13 years and you moved to Vegas and then, like, coming out of marriage, like how is it coming out of like marriage? You know, because, like some people like they get divorced or they break up with their significant other, and then, like you got the people that like don't know how to maneuver outside of that space, and then you have people that just like, well, shit, like I was held down for this long, I'm going buck wild, like how was it for you?
Speaker 2:honestly, I feel that we were having issues for so long on our marriage that once we broke out, I kind of got into I want to get someone else.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:Not crazy. I don't want to go crazy. I don't know how to be crazy like that. So I was like I want to get, I want to fall in love again.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:And I was single for too short not even a year and I started dating someone. We were together for like almost five years, four and a half.
Speaker 1:Oh wow, and it didn't work out either. That's a long time for like.
Speaker 2:And after him is when I say you know what? I just want to be alone.
Speaker 1:I mean, but that's like five years you guys were just dating or you guys were in a full-blown relationship?
Speaker 2:No, we were in a full relationship, okay.
Speaker 1:And this was in Vegas too, or was it long?
Speaker 2:distance? No, it was in Vegas too. Or was it long distance? No, it was in.
Speaker 1:Vegas. How would you say? The dating pool is in Vegas. I hear mixed reviews, so most of the time I hear more women say that the dating pool sucks in Vegas. Right, and then I hear other women say, well, hey, it doesn't suck, it's just that you've got to know what you want in order to play this.
Speaker 2:But if you know what you want, then it's really hard for you to find that person to fulfill what you want. I feel that the dating pool in general it's sucked in both ways and everywhere, so not just in Vegas everywhere, because now we're too fake on both ways too, and we are more into what do you bring to the table, and that's okay, because we're adults, we have to be responsible too. But not just that, it's like it goes both ways, okay it goes both ways.
Speaker 2:So I feel that, yes, it's really hard to date in general, no matter where you are. And just be smart and be single. It's okay to be single. I learned now how to be single. Honestly, I had that mentality since little. Literally, you break out because you already have another date Right okay, so it was just jumping from one to another one, like boyfriends or dating or whatever.
Speaker 2:And then it's the first time that I'm okay being alone. It's like I'm learning about myself. And it's okay to go out with friends. It's okay to go out by yourself. It's like I'm learning about that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah. So I mean I think you're absolutely right, but I think that, like certain people, they kind of stay in that realm and move in that movement too long. You get what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:I agree it's scary yeah.
Speaker 1:So it's like, it's one of those things. It's like and I say this with a lot of other movements too Like, okay, you could swim in the pool, but eventually you had to get out. And you know, once you found yourself, like, if you find yourself and you just remain alone, then you know and this is with anybody right I would say that you're going to become that crazy person that people talk about.
Speaker 2:This is the thing I feel that when you are too much, you spend too much time on the same position even if dating or a marriage that you don't like or whatever, it's really hard to get out, you get comfortable, Exactly how you get comfortable in a relationship that it's not healthy for you. You get comfortable being alone, and I'm afraid of those things too. To be honest, I don't want it. I want to find the right person, but I'm not looking either, so I'm just enjoying my time. I'm not even dating time. I'm not in a dating pool. I don't care if someone shows up or not. It's like literally you ask me for my number. I say what? Do you want it? Why?
Speaker 2:Give me a reason why I should give you my number.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:That's my first question I'm doing right now, and if your answer doesn't make no sense for me, I'm saying maybe next time.
Speaker 1:But okay, it could be a nice person.
Speaker 2:I have made like nice person, but if they're not ready for a relationship, we're not ready to what I need to, then we're gonna damage herself, both of us do you know what you need or what?
Speaker 2:I feel we don't know. Okay, we go, we go with the flow. No, we can't know you. You learn a little bit when you're by yourself, when you can learn a little bit when you're by yourself, when you can learn a little bit what you would really want, and then the person that I would make space in my closet have to deserve that I have to deserve that.
Speaker 1:But what is it that exactly? Let's take a step back real quick for the, for viewers sake, right, sure, what is? What is it that I'm gonna follow with something else, so just let me land here. But what is it that you like? What would be the foundation of what you truly want?
Speaker 2:the commitment. It's uh, it's really hard to find someone that commit to be loyal and to be open. And first thing that I like, it's just someone that it's honest. If this first date you're honest and you said, hey, you know what this is, who I am, I'm going to tell you who I am too, and I will tell you since day one. This is what I'm looking for and I say it all the time and like I'm not rude, I'm not mean, but if my words sounds rude to you, let me know and I will definitely will explain what I mean. I have no intentions to hurt nobody, neither I want to hurt.
Speaker 2:So I have to go both ways, and all I want is just someone with the commitment that it's loyal and be open to talking issues that we may have. That's all I ask, okay.
Speaker 1:But it's hard. That's all I ask, okay, so? Sorry see, this is where guys get a little confused at because, like um and my, my grandmother told me this a long time ago. I didn't understand it until I got an adult they say that a woman truly never knows what she wants, and then she never fully matures until she gets around 50 oh, wow you know.
Speaker 1:And so then I had I used to date older women um, I still do, but not like how older this woman was at this time and she told me I was young. She told me, look, you could keep on trying to figure it out, but you'll never figure out, because a woman that you mess with she doesn't know exactly what she wants because she's only mature to everything that she got up until this point.
Speaker 2:It makes sense and I agree, but I feel that all of us, not just females, males too you don't know exactly what you want until you get into it. So you know that you want a fast card until you get into it, and when you get it it's like oh, maybe I should not get that fast or maybe I should want more space or maybe so you don't know until you get to it, but I feel that your experiences kind of give you an idea what you're looking for.
Speaker 2:And then the rest is just where you make for your partner, because then once you find a person that it's not perfect but it's kind of like, okay, you understand the flags that he have, it's something you can work with. Then we can mate it together and then work together on what I really want and what you really want, because it's not just what I want. It's what we both want, but at least the basic have to be the same.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I could agree with that, and we're hormones like we are, like emotional person.
Speaker 2:We can have like, and one month we goes ups and down and maybe we want something. Then we don't like anymore and then we it's, it's.
Speaker 1:I understand that too but at least you know the basic have to be the same, have to be yeah, that's, that's kind of how it is for me and I I can't speak for all men, but the man that I hang out with, they kind of we kind of have a foundation on what we want.
Speaker 1:It might be a different foundation on what we want, but, um, like for me, um, like the first thing I say right off the bat dating me is hard, being with me is hard, like I'm always busy, um, and I don't. I would never. I don't put a gun to nobody's head, I don't make you do these things, but certain things that I, in a relationship, I expect, or in dating, I expect, I live by the three F's. I already said a million times, I'm not going to say it again, but if they can't, even if they're not willing to do the, the three F's, um, and for the viewers that know that watch this show, you know what I'm talking about and they're, uh, not willing to do the three F's, then like for me, at this point in time in my life, I have no need for them.
Speaker 1:You know what I'm saying I'm not saying I'm looking for anybody, but yeah, it has to. That foundation for me has to, has to be there.
Speaker 2:You know which one there are. That's easy, and you know from the beginning. As soon you cross the word with someone, you know if it could be or it's definitely not going to be.
Speaker 1:So we know, we know.
Speaker 2:We just take the risk, and then we have that reality distortion that we think that it will work out, when we actually know that it's not going to be. So that is our fault too.
Speaker 1:Do people ever tell you like, like? Do men ever tell you that it's like hard to approach you?
Speaker 2:Yes, someone told me that once. It said I it was a good friend of mine and I said it's uh, because they, oh you, probably get hit a lot. I worried, I was like, no, to be honest, not none at all, and and I was wondering why, why nobody say anything to me, you know? And I was like, well, honestly, it's that you look like a high standards.
Speaker 1:I'm like I'm not, I'm definitely I could see that and you know so with most pretty women like they're unapproachable why that's a good question.
Speaker 2:Why why it's so hard to just say something?
Speaker 1:now this is where men fail at, because a lot of men are afraid to approach. You know, I'm saying so like they're afraid of the other rejection but I'm being honest with you.
Speaker 2:I'm the kind of person I think guys approach when we open that door. We are the one who opened that door for you guys to go so I always say that like it's just like a little eye contact or a smile.
Speaker 1:I definitely agree, or something.
Speaker 2:It's really hard to have a guy that you will go to without that little click before anything.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I definitely agree, because I don't really do too much approaching women, I think that I mean, my mindset is like they have enough guys by fucking kicking down their door, you know, jumping in their inbox and shit like that. So for me, like I had to have some kind of indication that, that they want to be approached.
Speaker 1:you know I'm saying like not that I'm afraid of it, but more so like like we're both adults and you know I'll be, I'll come correct, whatever, but I'm not about to just be, I'm not like gonna be like other guys there are guys they don't know.
Speaker 2:There are guys that don't see those clicks.
Speaker 1:Sometimes they don't, they don't see the, they don't see it, they just I don't know I think they might see it, but they're they're oblivious to it because, like I said, they're scared, you know what I'm saying. Insecurities, possibly. You know, like you say, there's not a lot that approach you. I think they're really scared of you.
Speaker 2:Why I don't get that. I'm like a really nice person. I'm open to talk about anything.
Speaker 1:But you know that.
Speaker 2:Even from day one. They don't know that, but I don't know what else I'm going to do Like Like Again Is. What are you guys expecting from us? That's the question I don't expect anything. I mean Not you, I know, I know, because if we are too much, then it's not nice, it's, it's annoying. I'm I'm still a believer. We still have to be respectful, because I don't want to be the night girl, I want to be the wife, the partner. So there's a difference between those two.
Speaker 1:I think, since we live in the Instagram age and the social media age.
Speaker 2:Mine's still private. My Instagram is still private. You are not my friend, I'm not. You're not going to see it, that's good.
Speaker 1:But for all the thousands of other girls it's not, and you go look at their shit like I have no fucking chance, you know, I mean I have no.
Speaker 1:You know, because they, we live in a society where, like, if you think about it, like most guys would probably get at women on social media. You know, um, my, my aunt, fran, is a show, um, she has a dating um company where she's a matchmaker and and I would probably say that, um, her being a matchmaker, even the guys like a lot, a lot, a lot of money. They're, they're, they're still afraid to approach because they're afraid of that rejection, you know. So I had to have that matchmaker or or whatever the case may be. Um, and then, like I said, instagram, like most of the time most guys get left on red or get left on scent, you know. So it makes it kind of hard for for men because it, like you gotta most women, before she even conversates with you, she's going to, she's going to explore your instagram or try to see what you're about a lot of times, even on your lights and your comments on your photos.
Speaker 1:We will, yeah, we're going to go through those, yeah so I think, personally, I could be a dating coach for men because, like I don't think women's the hard part, I don't think getting women's the hard part in my opinion.
Speaker 1:Maybe, Keeping them. Yes, and it's the first point of contact. This might be the hard part for guys. You know, like I feel like if you relatively keep yourself looking right, be the best, you make the most, try to make as much money as possible, do the things in life you're going to like. If you build it, they'll come. That's how I look at life. So even on this show, as I try to tell men, it's like okay, look a woman, most of the time she's going to look you down and up. You know what I'm saying, not up and down like we do. You know what I'm saying. So it's reversed. So she's going to look you down and go okay, do you have decent shoes? Do you have a nice situation going on? Are you fat? You know what I'm saying. Are you too skinny? It could be too fat or too skinny Women don't feel like he can protect you, right?
Speaker 2:It's just that I don't think it goes with me. I'm not skinny.
Speaker 1:Okay, I don't think it's going to be this proportional. What about really fat men?
Speaker 2:Neither but hey, I appreciate that belly, that little belly, it's okay and it's good. Well, we're not talking about like the dad, but we're talking about like you know, like a biggie, big punt, you know. It's that someone who don't even my thing is like when you are that big, it's like you don't even take care of yourself. That's where you get that. So how are you going to take care of me?
Speaker 1:It's like it's too much.
Speaker 2:So there's the limit where it's okay, and it's the same with skinny. I understand you know genes, genetic and all that, but still you have to work on yourself too.
Speaker 1:It's, but too skinny it's, just because they don't go with me it's, but that's what most women say, like they want. But I know girls they love skinny guys.
Speaker 2:Hey, you know fat, no, but skinny. I know a lot of girls that like that I can see that.
Speaker 1:You know, I heard, I heard you know being at, I know a lot of women. I heard different things or their logic of why they like skinnier men. But most women that I talk to they don't like them too skinny because they feel like but I don't like six pack neither. So you like him just in the middle.
Speaker 2:Just a normal.
Speaker 1:You just want to ride with Billy. I don't like, yeah, just a normal guy.
Speaker 2:I feel that the six pack guy is way too much Focused on those things and it's not gonna have Enough time for me. Okay, it's gonna be that person that you can't have a drink Because you know it's not okay for the diet. You can't do this Because I have to sleep and it's too much that you can't and that's not fun either. It has to be in between Normal. Normal you can't work out and don't have to be a six pack no, I agree.
Speaker 1:Um, so what would you say would be the most?
Speaker 2:honestly, I don't really think to you the, the chemistry. I have seen guys that I have not even had a word with a guy in, in and I call my attention. So if there's something that I believe I don't practice in a relation, but I feel that energy is real and you can connect with the person even before cross the word.
Speaker 1:Absolutely.
Speaker 2:Even if it's not your type my type could be whatever. And then maybe this person it's completely the opposite, but it calls your attention. Why, who knows?
Speaker 1:I think energy plays a big part. I 100% agree with that. Energy, yes, and I think if a person has like a command presence, you know, if a guy comes in and he don't have to say too much, he kind of controls the room, take notes, he kind of controls the room, you know, without it having to say anything, right, or he has that mystique about him or whatever, and he's just cool, kind of collected, not over the top, whatever.
Speaker 2:I like the nice guy.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:I don't like the clown guy, those ones that get on the show and then they want to be.
Speaker 1:no, I can't handle this, doing all that talking and shit. No, I can't handle that.
Speaker 2:I'd rather have the guy who don't talk that much just listen to it and be quiet on the corner. I like that. Well, it gives you like it's a smart guy.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Someone that is just taking notes.
Speaker 1:I think that's where you know I'm not trying to toot my own horn or anything, but that's where I prevail at. I'm like a silent assassin. You know where I go in. I'm cool with everybody shaking hands, kiss babies, shit like that. But I'm not over the top, like even like with like jewelry, like clothing and stuff, like. I'm just chill. You know, we just relax. You know, um, I'm not trying to be seen, you know. I'm saying I'm just trying to be, I'm there, but I don't need to be the focal front of shit, like I let me neither everybody.
Speaker 1:I say I tell guys all the time I leave that for the women. You let them be the focal front, because I don't give a fuck about being pretty or cute or anything like that, as long as I can command people's attention that's it.
Speaker 2:What's the point? What's the point? To be the center of the attention?
Speaker 1:I think that's a woman's trait.
Speaker 2:But you know there's a lot of guys like that.
Speaker 1:A lot of guys are feminine.
Speaker 2:That's today's day. We are like is that real? We become more into our masculine energy and then guys become more feminine.
Speaker 1:I don't know, definitely the roles have reversed, yeah, and.
Speaker 2:I'm not okay with that. I'm still believing I am and I'm not. I'm still believing that we have served things. That goes with a go to female and male. I believe that a female if you are going to create a family and you have a partner that you choose for you choose it as a person you want to there's always a captain and co-captain. You can't be the same. You have to let him guide and then you have to be under, always have to be like that. Now you to choose why, who is going to be in charge. But it's, it's today's day. A lot of girls, they just want to be same or even more, sometimes more in charge of like everything, and that's.
Speaker 1:That's not okay I think that's for me. You know I'm. If they have those kind of traits like I, I kind of get turned off easy. I do. I understand, like you know, you got to sometimes work past a wall. But if they're in their masculine then they're not for me, you know.
Speaker 2:I feel it's okay to be in that energy when you're not alone.
Speaker 1:When you're single, you have to yeah sure, when you're single, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:You have to because otherwise you're going to fail in life. But once you get that person that you feel confident and you want to build something or you want to open that door, at least for that person, you have to step back a little bit, just let it be and see what's going to happen. I don't care if you open the door for me, I don't want you to open the door. There's other things that you have to prove, you have to show, and sometimes we are not like that prove, you have to show and, and sometimes we, we are not like that.
Speaker 1:I met this um this lady, and you know we're talking um, you know, not like flirting or anything, just talking, and um she asked me why the dating pool in vegas sucks and I said oh shit next time just ask her where?
Speaker 2:where can we go? That it's not gonna suck.
Speaker 1:I would love to know that yeah, that's kind of where I I kind of led to. I'm like, I think I don't think it's just a vegas thing. I mean vegas is faster than most cities, but, um, I I'd be around all around the world, I've been all around the country and, um, even the small cities, like they got that person, that's the man or the girl of that city or that town, and they kind of had the pick of the lither. So they kind of is like the player of the town or the whatever of the town. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:And so it's like I mean, anywhere you go like I didn't been in arizona and I've been in small towns in florida, small towns in texas, even in nashville, I met a lot of promiscuous women and I met a lot of men. That was you, you know, that was getting their shit off. And then, you know, I used to work in the hotels here and I meet a lot of men that live in Nebraska or whatever the case may be, and they're coming here to get the prostitutes and stuff, like you know what I mean. Like, so I don't think it's not one place that you can say that dating pool is stuck. Then I get to shit where it's like. Oh well, in the South it's a little bit better.
Speaker 2:I'm like not really. Where do they meet with the South? What part?
Speaker 1:I lived in the South, I met some dudes. I've never seen somebody go through so much scheming and plotting on cheating than I have in the South. You know what I'm saying and I I mean that's just me. Um, you know knowing these guys or whatever, but I don't think that is like even in different countries, like I know dudes, like in el salvador or whatever I know dudes in. You know that that go back and forth to like guatemala, you know all these different other places and you know it's kind of the same.
Speaker 1:You know they just their wives are just might be, or their women might just be, homemakers there, so they don't know what the fuck is going on and shit, but I think it's. I think it's everywhere it's everywhere.
Speaker 2:I agree. My when I got divorced, I said I would never date a cuban again, like I don't want it. I don't want it, no more why do I hear that?
Speaker 2:I hear that a lot like my experience, honestly, what I think about male cuban males not all of them, but like most of the, the ones from the capital, like the main cities, uh, they're not hard workers if you look around, like the woman, the female cubans, they work harder than guys and that is an attractive too. I don't want you to work like 12 hours a day, but I want to feel that if I'm not there, at least you're going to back me up.
Speaker 1:You're going to be there to help me, yeah.
Speaker 2:You know, but what I've seen, like if you look around, what do Cubans do? Uber? Some of them work at a casino. I'm not saying no.
Speaker 1:But most of them are females.
Speaker 2:It's more girls than guys, but 100% Uber drivers would be Cubans, and that's okay. I'm not having anything against that. It's just like what is your goal? What are you offering Like for real? What's going to happen later on?
Speaker 1:Or back in the day, like you used to be cab drivers.
Speaker 2:Yeah, exactly, or Amazon cab drivers yeah, exactly, or amazon amazon delivery. It's just cubans and that's okay. I'm not hating on them, I'm just saying that it's. I don't feel they have the same um goals or the same ideas when it goes to to that. Now, after I got divorced my ex he's from new york- oh, is he Cuban too?
Speaker 1:No, no, no. Okay, he's from New York. Is he Dominican, puerto Rican?
Speaker 2:No, actually he's England and Filipino.
Speaker 1:Oh, that's interesting. So the dad is.
Speaker 2:England and the mom is Filipino.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:And after him I say, oh shit, I'm okay with Cubans, I don't want a New Yorker. I will handle date a New Yorker anymore. Oh my God.
Speaker 1:I heard a lot about that. I know a lot of Spanish women, you know and I hear a lot about.
Speaker 2:Like Dominican men. I feel that when it goes to Latinos, caribbean, like anyone, like Cuban, puerto Rican, dominican they are professional che and Lazy Lazy. Now, if you go to Latin America and I love Colombians, colombians I feel the accent, the culture, I like them, but it's it's a different culture, even when saying language and everything. It's a completely different culture too when it goes to.
Speaker 1:Because Do you speak more Portuguese or do you speak more um portuguese or do you speak more? Like spanish, okay, okay you know, because, like I didn't know it was, you know I'm from california, you know, so I didn't know spanish was different until, like you know, I started moving around and like like they don't speak no they don't speak. You know like they speak more portuguese and see, I'm like what? Like you know, I can understand A little bit of Spanish, but like, yeah, like, the Portuguese Is like way faster, it's different.
Speaker 2:Same with Italian. It's a Sounds. You can get some words If you you know if they go slow, but if they go fast it's like oh shoot, I don't know where to talk I'm lost.
Speaker 1:I'm lost. Yeah, that's how it was. I'm like I'm speaking, I'm trying to attempt to speak Spanish to this couple one time and they spoke Portuguese. I'm young, I'm like 20, 21, whatever, and they can't understand a word. I say I can't understand a word they say Because you know, like I said, I grew up in California, so like it's almost a necessity to kind of know a little bit of Spanish. You know what I'm saying? Because everybody out there is fucking either from Mexico or somewhere in the neighboring countries and shit. So it's Spanish, it's good.
Speaker 2:It's just to know any other language, so that's a matter of which one. If you speak another language, that was good. It will help not to get a job, not to talk to people. I feel that anything that you learn will help not to get a job, not to talk to people. I feel that anything that you learn will help you to become smarter and then be open to learn more things in life, in general.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I agree with that.
Speaker 2:Like you could never stop learning, you know, uh, you say, a day that you didn't learn anything is a day that you lost your waist that.
Speaker 1:That's a good analogy. I'm going to steal that from you. I'm going to steal that from you. I like that. So you got married, you got divorced, you dated the guy from New York, and then what happened after that?
Speaker 2:We broke out. I dated for a couple months a Cuban guy. We were friends, we were good friends before and we would date for a couple months. Cuban guide. We were friends, we were good friends before and we would date for a couple months. But it didn't work out. We were just it would. It was not gonna work, but it was just a little bit. It was just a couple months and that's it. Now I have a good friend of mine who moved to vegas, so at least I have a friend to hang out so now I have a partner to go out once in a while, and that's it.
Speaker 2:That's it just working, and I'm not closed, I'm open and I have been texting guys before too but, I noticed honestly that I have been really strict with my boundaries, what it goes to.
Speaker 2:Before there was zero boundaries. Oh, I don't like this. Oh, but he does that. Maybe I will change that, you know. So now I'm learning to. Okay, this is something I don't like. I'm not going to talk to you, no more, that's it. I mean we can be friends, but definitely the conversation is not going to be about anything else than friends. Like I don't like drugs me personally, I don't do drugs, none at all yeah. I can drink alcohol when we party, but if you do more than that, depend where you do.
Speaker 1:If it's decent drug, that's okay so it was like coke or something.
Speaker 2:No, absolutely no, you smoke weed.
Speaker 1:I don't care oh, that's not really a drug, is it?
Speaker 2:it's no, not anymore. But I'm saying like I don't care. But I'm saying I see that you are doing something else than that. I don't care.
Speaker 1:If it's a party thing, I'm not going to be with you yeah, that's kind of um I don't, I don't like that that's kind of me too, like I, I smoke cigars, you know, but like like I'm, you know, if a person smokes weed that's fine, whatever, but I don't really smoke outside of the cigars, like when I go to cigar lounges and and, um, you know, I never done any drugs and and so, like you know, I know plenty of girls that might have messed around with coke, shit like that, whatever it's.
Speaker 2:Vegas.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, I know plenty of people in that life or whatever, but I don't know, that just has never been my thing. I don't want-.
Speaker 2:I've never tried honestly, me neither, and I'm not into it, none of them.
Speaker 1:I just seen too like. I just seen too many like fiends and shit growing up, you know, and like I said, shit, I don't ever want to be like that. I think I have an addictive personality Like. So like with cologne, shoes and shit like that. You know like, that's my addictive personality, you know, like for a time it used to be women. You know, like women I was a womanizer you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 1:Like that's my addictive personality. So if I'm, if I know that I have an addictive personality, I yeah, I don't want to do that shit because I don't want to. That was me too.
Speaker 2:I was always the same. I was saying I know I'm not that strong on attitude. I said, okay, that's it. I know why. To try something if you know that it could be dangerous for you. You're going to put yourself in that position. I'd rather not to. I don't need to. I know if I get like three shots of tequila I'm going to have a lot of fun. I don't need anything else in bed.
Speaker 1:And if I'm tired, I'm tired, go to sleep.
Speaker 2:Tomorrow will be another day.
Speaker 1:You know the worst time. I stopped drinking tequila a long time ago. I call it tequila scum juice. I say this because one night, this is a long time ago, me and my boy, we used to tell people I'm Dominican, he's Puerto Rican. We're not, but he knows Spanish, I know a little bit of Spanish.
Speaker 1:You can always blame on your parents, say oh they teach me Spanish, and so you know, I used to tell people I'm Dominican on the weekends and he's Puerto Rican on the weekends and shit. And so like we're meeting all these girls, right, senior frogs and stuff like that and tequila, right next thing. You know, like I'm in the back seat of somebody's alexis, like knocked out you know what I'm saying. Like it was, it was this girl that came and picked this up. She, um, she was, she was good for that. You know we went to ihop, like I'm throwing up and stuff. You know, like I feel like tequila puts me on my worst behavior, so I don't, I don't drink it. You know I might have a shot here or there if I go to like I like tequila when I'm at home with my family.
Speaker 2:We have a party, then we go all the way. I can see that Now if I'm outside, it's that I like drinks that are sweet too. So, sweet drinks are usually like mixed ones, are kind of like tricky as well, because you drink it like juice and then you feel after so I'd rather go for some time. Shots too, like yeah, but I don't drink beer, I don't like champagne, I don't like see that, see, that's my room like beer, champagne, stuff.
Speaker 1:You know like I'm not a heavy drinker anymore, so I'm just here to drink for conversational people yeah, you know, you can have those things too when it's just like a one yeah, you know I take a shot of some you know here there.
Speaker 2:You know, if I'm in a cool environment I do like a little bit, just a little bit, just to yeah yeah, no, there's nothing wrong with that, you know, I just couldn't do it, especially tequila man. No, no, mas no, my respect to tequila. Yeah, try mezcal, that's even worse try what mezcal, that's. That's from Mexico too. It's different than tequila, but that's even worse.
Speaker 1:I think I might have tried that, like when I go to Mexico.
Speaker 2:The flavor is different. Yeah, it's not burning your throat, but it's still in your mouth like that flavor.
Speaker 1:You can tell it's pure or not.
Speaker 2:But it's really good to get drunk.
Speaker 1:Do you like Mexico?
Speaker 2:You know I came from Mexico. I went to Cuba, mexico, mexico, vegas, and I've never been back.
Speaker 1:Really.
Speaker 2:Yeah, never. I've never been back. I want to go, but it depends. I do want to go because Cancun they're all inclusive, it sounds. I don't like Cancun.
Speaker 1:You don't, because Cancun they're all inclusive.
Speaker 2:It sounds. I don't like Cancun. You don't like Cancun? No, why not?
Speaker 1:It's too Americanized. It's kind of dirty too.
Speaker 2:Do you like Cabos?
Speaker 1:It's cool. I'm more of like a Tulum type of person. Tulum, you know more commerce cities but they have shit there to do. But I fell in love with Tulum and then I just look at.
Speaker 2:Cancun oh okay, no, I had never been.
Speaker 1:I've been to so many different spots in Mexico. I used to take a lot of cruises, but I've been there. I fly for free, so I've been there a lot of times and, yeah, I will say by far, tulum right now is my favorite.
Speaker 2:It's your favorite.
Speaker 1:Cabo used to be like back in the day, but Tulum right now.
Speaker 2:I'm going to add it on my list, you should go Tulum, for sure.
Speaker 1:What about, like anywhere else outside of Cuba?
Speaker 2:No, I have never gone outside of the United States, to be honest, Cuba. I went to Bahamas on a cruise too, and it was good. But, usually I stay here in the States. You know it's hard, because when you work in the casinos too, you only have two weeks of vacation a year, so it's really hard to get the two weeks together. And it's really hard to go to a place when you only have like a week and it's. You know, I have to match with the family.
Speaker 2:Like my kids were at school too, so it's really really hard to get all those.
Speaker 1:And when we do? We go to cuba.
Speaker 2:We stayed here, like on the states so how are you and your ex-husband now like, are you guys?
Speaker 1:oh, we're good, you guys good, um we're good, you know, because you know you know some divorces in like no we at the time of the divorce, we struggle.
Speaker 2:It was complicated because we do have kids in common, so it's it's hard when you get divorced and you have kids. But no, now it has been a while, now it's been a lot so we're sure like once in a while we're good again, so it's okay.
Speaker 1:Yeah, as long as you guys are able to like, how old are your kids, if you don't mind me?
Speaker 2:asking 15 and 11.
Speaker 1:15 and 11. Yes, those are good ages.
Speaker 2:Yeah, my son. I came here pregnant with my son.
Speaker 1:Okay, so In 2009. 15.
Speaker 2:So he's about to be 16.
Speaker 1:So he's a high schooler.
Speaker 2:He is a high schooler.
Speaker 1:Yeah, he's living the life. I think high school is like the best time.
Speaker 2:It's a good kid. Yeah, my high school was the best time too.
Speaker 1:You have a lot of fun. I think that's where youngsters, that's where they kind of find themselves. You know what I'm saying. You know because you got all the high school activities that's going on, and especially if you play like a sport too. Like you know, I played football, ran track. So like I had this affinity for, you know, for all the shit that was going on at my schools or whatever.
Speaker 2:And yeah, high school was very fun you know, I was just telling my son that the other day In Cuba, our high school we were actually leaving at school, so we were going to school Monday and coming out on Friday.
Speaker 1:So it was kind of like a boarding school.
Speaker 2:It was like a boarding school.
Speaker 1:I don't know if I could do that.
Speaker 2:Oh, that was awesome. Imagine high schoolers like you leaving with your friends. That was actually really good. That's like my friends today's date, my best friends. They're still being from high school. Like I have like three, four good friends, like the only ones that I talk to the most, and they're from that. I was like the, and therefore don't die.
Speaker 1:I was like the pregnancy rate with that, like do a lot of high schoolers, because I know out here like no, no, no, out here. I never seen so many. Like when I moved out here I never seen so many pregnant high school girls in my life. Like I think I find out like when there's not a lot to do for kids, um, like pregnancies, they go rampant you know what I'm saying because that's the only thing they're doing. They're doing drugs, drugs, and you know sex and you know all that shit. Imagine.
Speaker 2:Cuba, where there are not even a theater to go for a movie. So, yeah, no but, not really. No, it was a good school, to be honest.
Speaker 1:It was good.
Speaker 2:As all the schools out there no, not all of them. So the school that I went to how to call it? Like AP classes. So, you have to take a test to go to. So if it's like 300 people want to go but I only have capacity for 100, so you have to take a test.
Speaker 1:Oh, so it was kind of like a charter school type of deal yeah.
Speaker 2:It was a good school, so we behaved a little bit. We were not that bad, we were like good kids. Okay of it. We were not that bad, we were like good kids, okay. And this is around the 2090s, 2000. I don't want to age you. I don't want to say I'm 36, I'm about to be 37 now, all right.
Speaker 1:Next sunday okay, well, someone I know that some people they don't like their age exposed so I don't care okay, so I'm afraid of the 40s.
Speaker 2:I'm not gonna lie why that's like I'm ready for.
Speaker 1:That should be like your prime age.
Speaker 2:You know, I feel when I was on the, when you're a teenager, you want to be on the 20s. You're on the 20s and you see yourself going to the 30s. Like I'm going to get so old. I'm going to be 30 now. You know, in Spanish like 30, it's treinta. So after the 30s we become the top part, like not teenagers anymore.
Speaker 1:Now it's the top and we're so afraid now my damn, the 30s has been the best time of my life.
Speaker 2:I think the 30s are ready for the 40s. Yeah, let's see what's gonna happen the 20s.
Speaker 1:The 20s is fun, but, like most of the time, when you're in your 20s, you're trying to live life. You're kind of broke or whatever. Um, you know your shit like that or whatever. You know shit like that.
Speaker 2:It's not that fun. You think you got it all and you don't have anything on the 20s. So once you get the 30s when you're like, okay, I feel that now I know a little bit more, now I can have that fun with being responsible too On the 20s, when you take a lot of risk.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you don't care.
Speaker 2:You're like, you're wild and free.
Speaker 1:I tell men like this, like, because this is a little bit different for us than you guys Like. Build yourself in the 20s, Go harder in your 30s.
Speaker 2:And enjoy it on the 40s.
Speaker 1:Yeah, in the 40s and 50s. That's when you should be made. You know what I'm saying. Like, don't I even tell guys as much as this it's cool to date, but don't get into full relationships In your 20s, because you're still trying to figure out life and you're broke most of the time. You know what I'm saying. And so In today's time, because women are not going to respect the building of you, they're only going to respect you already built.
Speaker 2:I disagree with that.
Speaker 1:Okay, elaborate.
Speaker 2:I disagree with that. I feel that the right woman would love to be part of your growing. I want to be that person. I don't like the man that is already fully established just because 90% of the time, guys that are established, they look at you as a material, as something. You are here because I already got this, or you're here but I can replace you too. It's not the same.
Speaker 1:I think you're the minority in that way.
Speaker 2:I want the guy to have a goal and we will build it together. That's the guy that I like. That's the guy that I appreciate it, because the guys already established they already went through so much and um.
Speaker 1:The dating pool for that guys is it's easy to pick so you don't, you don't want a guy with like that has the ability to have many options I don't mind.
Speaker 2:Honestly, as a lot of, I have the trust, but it's really hard to trust Today's day. It's really hard to do and I just want a guy that will be fine and honestly. I'm meeting guys that have been established and what I've seen, the attitude is different, Even the attitude from the beginning. It's different.
Speaker 1:I can understand that.
Speaker 2:I don't like that. I, I don't like that. I don't care how much you can make, I'm not gonna make that, I don't care, but we are the same and you I can't. I don't like to feel that.
Speaker 1:Uh, you see me as someone under you because I don't like it I think, think we're conditioned like that, because I say like this going back, I don't blame them, I don't blame them.
Speaker 2:I agree with them because that's society too, when so many girls probably play games with that guy before or use that guy. So I understand, but from my perspective I'm not going to do that to you, and if I feel that that's where you think about me, then that's our immediately. I can't do this.
Speaker 1:Well, I mean a guy, a lot of times a guy has built or how their shit together. I think you're so you got. You're meeting those pseudo guys, that's that I'll say, like this, they're, they got, they worked hard, got to this lane, but now, like this is their first time in this lane, right. But then on the other side of that is, guys has built their shit, but then they got like open minds to shit in life, you know.
Speaker 1:So they're like you're not a object, but you kind of got to understand his program you know, I'm saying so because I mean, let's be honest, it's kind of hard right, with the guy that you're building, help building with, because, like at any given time, and you're in in your position.
Speaker 2:Now, right, let's say, you meet a guy, it's really hard because at that age a dizzy 37 that I'm about to be I don't want to date a 30-year-old kid. I will date a 40-year-old man.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but at 40,. You're building right now. Yeah, exactly that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:It's really hard. That's why the dating at this age it's really hard. But I have seen guys at 40 that it's still like acting like 17. And I have seen guys on like 40s, that it's still responsible guy, maybe not established, but responsible, and that's what I care the most. I don't care if you made six, seven figures, if your attitude is like a $3 bank account.
Speaker 1:I'm sorry.
Speaker 2:Your attitude is more important than anything else, because I'm not rich, neither I'm looking for it. I just want to be happy, and if you're not going to bring the happiness, your money's not going to bring the happiness. Yeah, it would be nice to have a Chanel bag, but I don't care about it.
Speaker 1:But that goes back to what I was saying earlier. You know, with that guy that walks into the room that has that command present, that mystique guy, right, those guys that know what they got, that know what they can do, like, they know the type of shit that's going on, they're not going to talk about it because they've already been there, they've already been positioned there. You get what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:You're talking about guys that just get into this level. To be honest, I think it goes to my every person have their own like what they like what they're looking for. There are girls who don't like that kind of attitude. They like more the clown person.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, yeah, for sure.
Speaker 2:That game worked for a certain amount of people, so not everyone. So maybe being the quiet on the corner worked for me and it worked for three more girls, but not for the 20 that are in the room. So maybe the other 17s would be like oh, I don't know who he is, I don't even notice that he was there. So that game works for a specific. Every game goes for a specific kind of crowd.
Speaker 2:So that person, that is the quiet, the energy, it goes with me and it can go with someone else, but that's everywhere. Remember there's seven girls for the men in the world.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's true. So you just have to choose the wise one. I think that's another hard part with a lot of guys too is because, like, once you're established, you know it does open up a door to a lot of different women. So you got to kind of….
Speaker 2:Be mature. It's just about being mature, because you're going to have a lot of opportunities, but you have to choose too.
Speaker 1:You have to you got to have good discernment.
Speaker 2:We are adults, we are responsible for our decisions. And when we make a decision, we already know about the consequences that can come with.
Speaker 1:Sure.
Speaker 2:So it's like we just have to be aware of what we're doing and I think we are. It's just that we think we're never going to get caught and that's the biggest problem, but it's and honestly, I always say the same. I'm not even worried about a guy who shit on me. That's not my biggest concern. My biggest concern is about the commitment, and when it goes to loyal, it doesn't mean just the shitting part. There's so much more than just the shitting.
Speaker 2:For me, guy, texting someone is even worse than if you go out, you have a party with your friends. This girl go crazy on you and then something happened with that girl that night. But if you build that texting day by day, even if you have not having anything, that's even worse for me that that night that you fuck it up I get because you're building more of a like a bond connection.
Speaker 2:You're building more emotionals. You're taking that time from me to give it to someone else, so you're taking that energy to someone else. That is definitely.
Speaker 1:For me, it's even worse than anything even if you have done nothing, I definitely understand that. Even if you have done nothing, I definitely understand that, because, shit, I've done that before you know, a few times we all have been in that position.
Speaker 2:I'm not like that person who would say, oh, I never text someone. No, you have, we all have done that. But we know sometimes it's just the game of the texting part, because we like that we're humans and we like to feel I'm a female. I love when a guy say texas, you look pretty today I like that, I'm like hey, I like that. We all like that too, but doesn't mean that I'm gonna disrespect my partner too and say, hey, follow that.
Speaker 1:no, that's not okay. Yeah, I, I can agree with you, um, and like I said, like it's times that I've done that shit, and like looking back at it, like once she had my told me like how she felt about it or whatever the case may be, um, and getting out of my own selfish ways, I'm like, oh, I can see where it's going Because you'd be like well, I didn't fuck.
Speaker 1:that person is, is, is innocent. But then, like you know her saying it and you know, and she's feeling this way and you know, and you know it could be a breakup because of that, or breakups happen because of that, and you're thinking like damn, like she might have been on to something.
Speaker 2:Always think about it. If you have to hide it or delete it, then there's not innocence on it. There's nothing innocent on it.
Speaker 1:True, but what if you keep it there? But you're talking to that person, it's still the same To be honest, the point of keeping it.
Speaker 2:If your girl, if I'm being in that position too, finding something, and if you're keeping it, depend what kind of conversation goes to Depend what's going on too, we can definitely have like, hey, explain this to me, let me understand this kind of friendship that you have. I'm open to talk to you, I'm open to let you explain it to me. Now, if you become with like, what are you looking at my phone? That's a big problem. It's like I understand I don't have to look at your phone. I agree with you 100%. But if, for some reason, this pop up on we're watching a tv show on your phone as something on youtube and then a text message come out, I have the right to ask you about it and if you think that I can't ask you about it, then we should not be in that relationship.
Speaker 2:Because I do. I will be able to give you all explanation. Anything you ask for, I will explain to you. I feel that I have to. You have the right to ask me, for I will explain to you, I feel that I have to. You have the right to ask me for it, how. I have the right to ask you too. It goes both ways. So this is a relationship how we're going to build something when I'm hiding something from you and I can't ask you I can't be myself and ask you a simple question, then we should not be together.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:That's what I'm saying, that I've been a little more mean lately.
Speaker 1:I mean that's about practical, though, like you know, you would think it's true.
Speaker 2:Why am I going to waste my time and your time? So, if this is something I don't like and this is what I need, and if you can't give me that, eventually we're going to break up. This is going to be ending. This is the beginning of the end. So why are we going to waste time? I don't have time to waste. I'm not in the 20s. I'm going to be in the 40s soon enough.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So do you think I have time to waste with someone that it's not on the same level?
Speaker 1:No, I don't so you don't mind if a guy might be dating multiple women while you're dating, but no, I do.
Speaker 2:You do so if you meet a guy today and he's dating most and he tells you you gotta, I would tell you this if we met I met a guy today and the guy the guy invited me to go out and we go out dinner. We have been out like two or three times just dinner, fun like, but nothing else I would be okay, like I don't care. To be honest, I don't. I don't care because I'm being honest too, I may be texting other guys, so so do him like.
Speaker 2:I'm not the kind of person I would go out with everyone, because I feel that if I'm going out with the guys because I'm going to put more energy on it, I'm going to work on this one, but I'm still going to have the plan bcd on the phone. I will. I'm not going to lie to you now. If we, because it, because it happens to me before when I met my ex, I met my ex on a dating app. When we become okay, this is going to be serious. I literally text the other guy and say, hey, I'm in a relationship, don't text him anymore.
Speaker 1:Damn. Well, that's kind of mean.
Speaker 2:No, it's not, but I say it no-transcript it's, it's over, that's it, and say we can be friends, but don't text me anything, because I do have a partner now. So if you and I can be like that, it's like you text me something, I'm gonna block you and we can be friends. So just be respectful with that too. So if once we cross that dating and we go for more, yes, I'm expecting him to cut it off too, because I will do the same thing, you do the same thing and I don't see that.
Speaker 2:It's something that it's it bothers me a lot, like, let's say, I go out with a guy to a restaurant and then he goes out to the same restaurant with someone else. No, I don't like that.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, I don't like that.
Speaker 2:That's like no, I'm not going to be the joke, I'm not.
Speaker 1:No, no, I'll say this. I'm ask you a question, but I wanted to say this too, but I wanted to say this too. And the texting, or cheating, I think sometimes the guys, the reason why they do it is not because they can, it's because it may be like sometimes that they could get, they could talk to or get off something that they can't get off with their significant other. You know what I'm saying. So I might be texting.
Speaker 1:I'm not saying that it's right because it's not right, but I might be texting this person because I could talk to this person more than I could talk to my significant other.
Speaker 2:Then you should break out.
Speaker 1:But I don't think it's that easy for guys. No, it's not easy, but it's better for you better for her better for the other person it's like a mature thing.
Speaker 2:So if you think that the person you have next to you it's not the person, that's the most important part. If you can't talk to the person you're building with or you're sleeping next to, then what are you doing there? If you can't talk, that's the first thing. You have to be able to say whatever you have to say, even if the other person disagree with you.
Speaker 1:It's like it's okay we are a partner we have to debate about this I think it might be easier it's really hard done for some guys because and in some women too, but for for more.
Speaker 1:So for for guys, because they might be invested in other ways with, like he loves her. You know he might love her, he might have a kid by her kids, or you know he might be tied to a lot of different things and you know the separation of, possibly, family, even though, like, what you're doing could jeopardize all that. I'm not saying that, but I think with some guys they do it only because, uh, they're able to talk to you know, because you know.
Speaker 2:This is the thing with guys. I'm the kind of person who think guys would never leave a female before they have another female, even mom. You don't love your mom until you have your partner. You don't love your partner until you already would get another one. I feel guys are really attached to a female. Guys are really attached to a female and if you are in a relationship and you are talking to someone else because you don't feel that you can talk to your partner, most likely that's going to end, because it's going to happen, I agree.
Speaker 2:It's going to happen. That person is filling out something that's really important and eventually is going to fill out everything, because that's the most important thing You'll be able to express. I'm the kind of person I talk a lot, a lot. I'm Gemini, so I talk a lot. Oh shit, we're not even going to go there, and I'm really open to listen to everything, I'm definitely going to understand you 100%, even if the conversation is not something that I like.
Speaker 2:I always said before your partner I have to be your friend and I'm always going to give you your advice as a friend, because your, your happiness, your wealth. It's actually more important to me, their partner, their relationship, because if we don't work as a relation, I'm friend with all my exes, literally I'm friend with all of them, and even the one that I date for a couple months, we're good friends. The one that we I said I would never date a new yorker, no more, and we end like really bad. I'm still be friend of him because I understand him. I understand that he was not ready for it and maybe I put him in the position that is like, uh, your shoes or not, and then I maybe forced him to get that decision and and he wasn't ready. So I don't hate him for that, none at all. I hate him for and I hate it. I disagree with him on the because of his commitment on the relationship was not good enough.
Speaker 2:So, it was. When I mean commitment, it's not just about cheating or no, it's about being loyal, to talk to you and say, hey, you know what I don't like this.
Speaker 1:And.
Speaker 2:I'm okay to say okay, what are we going to do?
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:I even tell him, like you know what we don't have to break out. You sleep in one room, I sleep in another one. Figure it out what you want to do.
Speaker 1:But you need to figure it out because I'm not going to be here to figure it out for you, you need to figure it out.
Speaker 2:And once you figure it out, then we can talk. And if this is not going to work out for you, perfect, we can go different ways.
Speaker 1:And if you want to do the right were right, but it's gonna be right. It's not halfway right, all right. Last question before we get the hell out of here three advices that you'll get to man. Three advices that you'll get to women. Coming from a woman that's been on both sides of the dating spectrum, my first advice to both.
Speaker 2:it was going to be. It will be be honest, honestly, it's the best thing you can ever be, and if the person don't like what you said, then that's not your person.
Speaker 1:That's it.
Speaker 2:That's for both. On the male side, I will say be patient too.
Speaker 1:Be, patient.
Speaker 2:You guys need a lot of patience because we are complicated, I agree. You guys need a lot of patience because we are complicated, I agree. And the third, for the guy to be honest, it's I don't know, I just don't know Commitment. I always going to say it If you made the decision to have a partner, then that's your partner, and if that's not your plan, it's okay to say it from the beginning. We're looking for the same thing too. You never know, maybe you can have a lot of fun with the person.
Speaker 2:if that's all you want to do On the girl's side other than be honest, it's bring it down a little bit. We can't be a man. If we want a man, we have to be the girlie on the relationship always Bingo. Yeah, so bring it down a little bit, that energy. It's not helping you. So far it have not been okay. That's why you're single, including myself.
Speaker 2:So, we need to take it down a little bit. And the third one if it goes to dating, I will say always be dad, mom in a relationship. I feel we need that too. And when it goes to a relationship, guys want to be sure that they have the wife and the mom and the family on you. So if you can't do that, then stay single and come to Vegas and party.
Speaker 1:You heard it here first. On that note, it's a good fucking episode. It didn't even feel like an episode. I just feel like we're just talking shit. I know you want to shout out your socials or anything.
Speaker 2:It's okay, I'm Marilyn Mesa. Ig is the one that I use the most. It's Marilyn underscore Mesa.
Speaker 1:And she might add you, she might not you never know.
Speaker 2:Be nice, have a photo on your profile.
Speaker 1:Don't do no offense to On that note, we're out of here. Like, subscribe, comment, talk your shit. Hit me up in the inbox on Instagram. That's Elevated One Network, same thing on YouTube and all that other shit and we out. Peace, bye.
