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Taj Wilder @Tajwilder , AJ
Elevated Talkz
Navigating Love and Self-Improvement
How do you balance modern relationships with personal growth and authenticity? This episode promises to answer that question with insights that will leave you thinking long after it's over. We kick things off with AJ's unexpected leap into social media and Marina's reflections on the joys and challenges of motherhood. From there, we dive into the core qualities that can make or break relationships, all through a lens of humor and real-life experiences.
The conversation takes a deeper turn as we address the misconceptions surrounding financial success and its impact on love, the devastating effects of infidelity, and the ethical quagmires of being a 'side dude.' Prepare for some candid revelations about the evolution from casual flings to meaningful connections, as well as the often overlooked yet vital concept of continuous self-improvement in relationships. We share personal stories, challenge norms, and laugh along the way, making this both a reflective and entertaining dialogue.
We round out the episode with a focus on the intricacies of blended families and the responsibilities that come with dating single parents. Our discussion highlights the importance of fairness, inclusion, and readiness to embrace an entire family—not just your partner. Lastly, we underscore the significance of personal development before embarking on romantic endeavors, advocating for becoming the best version of oneself to attract the right connections. This episode is packed with engaging banter, actionable advice, and heartfelt insights that you won't want to miss.
Elevated Talks in this thing. You got your boy Standout in the building.
Speaker 2:Your boy A to the J and Marina.
Speaker 1:Marina came back to hang out with us. You know we had a couple more people, but you know you know how that goes.
Speaker 3:Aj Back to the first time. Yeah, you never left.
Speaker 1:Hey. So let me ask you real quick Like we be cool with us, do we bite?
Speaker 2:um, no, not that I know what you mean. This is my only second time here, okay, just making sure you know I just wanted to make sure you know, because sometimes people get a little nervous.
Speaker 1:You know what I'm saying, so, uh, what's up, aj? How's? How's your life going?
Speaker 3:my life, is going great. Your boy been busy like crazy. You know I'm saying making my thing work. I actually made it social media, so that's a surprise, I see yeah, I don't know how to work at y'all, so y'all ain't gonna get it yet, but I made one so you've never had social media.
Speaker 1:I don't do social media, and now he's crazy, he might have had a finsta, but not an actual social media I had a burner account.
Speaker 3:I was running KD's burner account.
Speaker 1:What's going on with you, Marina?
Speaker 2:I've just been doing nothing.
Speaker 1:actually, You've been doing nothing.
Speaker 2:Nothing. I've been exhausted.
Speaker 1:What have you been exhausted from?
Speaker 2:I've been at home, just exhausted, just trying to, you know, be a mom, how are?
Speaker 3:you exhausted? You do nothing. How are you do nothing? You do nothing. How do you do nothing?
Speaker 1:I guess, I don't know. I guess that's why I'm doing nothing. Being a mom is exhausting. We'll leave it at that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, but we'll see in the next, maybe in the next four weeks.
Speaker 1:What's going on in the next four weeks? You about to get married or something birthday, so when's your birthday? June 12th, it was wednesday. Happy belated birthday, thank you why didn't we know that right?
Speaker 2:you could do something.
Speaker 1:If you're on my social media, you would know no, no, I'm on your social media, but I didn't see shit yeah nor did you tell me we would have, we would have. You have to read, you know what I'm gonna be honest with you, like, like I really I barely view people's shit like I view your shit, don shit. Don't get me wrong, but I didn't see. So happy belated birthday.
Speaker 3:Thank you, it's lying right to your face, right, it's okay, it's okay, it's okay.
Speaker 2:I'm old. I'm old, so it doesn't even matter.
Speaker 1:I'm not actively on social media, but we got something for you, don't worry about it Okay, thank you. Let's get straight into some of this shit. Everybody been asking me on social medias. I like to give the fans what they want. You know how we do. That's why we're number one in Vegas. You can check the stats if you want to. I try, I try. Let me see when we at. Other than that, life has been good for you guys, or what life's been good okay, I love that under the future voice.
Speaker 1:Okay, life's been good so okay, let's, let's go into this. Like, what are your five non-negotiables? Like, just like in relationships, dating and all that shit. I'll let you go first. Go ahead, take it shit.
Speaker 2:I'll let you go first. Go ahead.
Speaker 3:Take it away.
Speaker 2:No, I'll let you go first. Come on, man. I have to Five non-negotiables.
Speaker 3:Okay, I'll go first then.
Speaker 1:When it comes to dating, mm-hmm.
Speaker 2:So, being that, I'm back on the scene. Like, are you talking about? Like traits in a person, or? It's your five non-negotiables okay, um he has to be, we'll get to traits next.
Speaker 1:So let's just say like things as well, I'm just gonna do five non-negotiables okay that I need um.
Speaker 2:He has to be nice and courteous, like okay, he can't be disrespectful. He has to learn how to talk to people um two. I think he would have to be handsome, of course maybe um he could be like a two, three a two or three. That's crazy, that's not hey you know, it's whatever you think is handsome so from a two or three at a ten yes, like I'm not too like keen on looks, but I I will accept, like you know I want to see some of your exes.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's the two or three is crazy that's nuts yeah, you know, I want to see some of your exes. Yeah, that's the two or three is crazy.
Speaker 2:That's nuts. Yeah, you know I'm a clip this, all right.
Speaker 1:It's the truth. I don't know.
Speaker 2:That's your truth as you get older, looks like they are bottom, you know, on your list.
Speaker 3:Okay, if you got a shot, you got a shot. If you fugly, I do.
Speaker 2:I but.
Speaker 1:I do want someone handsome, though, like maybe a five. So average, average Average, yeah, okay.
Speaker 2:They have to be funny. Like I don't like boring people, I'm boring, I think. I think I don't know.
Speaker 1:I don't get boring from you, but I don't get like all the way. Attention seeker, you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm not an attention seeker, but I attention seeker, you know. Yeah, I'm not an attention seeker, but I do like to have fun. I'm I'm adventurous, um, so he would have to be the same way. I don't like a man who just stays home and doesn't want to go out anywhere okay um four, I would think he would. Well, he has to have a job and make money what kind of job? Any kind of job. I don kind of job, I don't care.
Speaker 2:Okay, as long as he is up and working Like that's all that matters to me.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah, okay.
Speaker 2:And the last one, he would have to be tall.
Speaker 1:Like what is tall for you.
Speaker 2:Like I prefer like 6'4 and over.
Speaker 1:That's pretty tall. But I'm 5'2, so I'd go about like so 6' is tall to you, yeah.
Speaker 2:I do. The shortest I'll do is probably like 5'9".
Speaker 3:That's a big swing yeah.
Speaker 2:I'm 5'2", like it's still tall but it's not tall. So what's the?
Speaker 1:tallest, you dated, sorry AJ.
Speaker 2:That I've dated was 6'8". Goddamn motherfucker that's taller than me.
Speaker 1:Yeah, he was tall, just walking in the door dunking and shit.
Speaker 2:Yeah, he was tall and people would look and stare, I'm 6'3". I gotta look up to that nigga like what's up what's up play.
Speaker 3:I'll still dunk on your ass, though I'll still say most you girls that's 5'2, want a tall dude, but y'all be like looking at us like, oh, you must be 7 feet y'all can't even gauge it.
Speaker 2:I mean, I don't know like, when I saw you guys, you guys looked really tall to me, like you said how tall are you? I'm 6'3", so I'm like oh okay, it must have been like my eyes, or something.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm pretty tall.
Speaker 2:I'm just not 6'8 tall, but you're not that tall, yeah, yeah yeah, I'm above average, yeah.
Speaker 3:Okay, 6'8". That's too big, honestly, like imagine, even if a girl.
Speaker 2:It was a little awkward when we would be out.
Speaker 3:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:We would get stares all the time.
Speaker 1:Did he play basketball? No, so he wasn't athletic.
Speaker 2:He wasn't athletic, he was like Was he a gamer?
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, that's crazy.
Speaker 2:Interesting what's yours?
Speaker 3:Oh, I didn't even think about it. Honestly, I was listening to yours. I want to be single for the rest of my life, so I only got five. But if it was five, I would say you can't be a bum, so you gotta have doing something with your life. You know what I'm saying. Have passion, do something. I would say you gotta be outgoing, because I don't want no boring person just like you. Um, honestly, you have to have your head on your shoulders. You can't be head in the clouds thinking about some negativity all the time. That's three. These last two about to be hard. Honestly, I don't even think about this because I don't know what I'm thinking about this.
Speaker 3:I don't even think about this.
Speaker 2:What's the other?
Speaker 3:two would be what would the other two be? That's pretty much it For me, just be outgoing. Who would the other two be? That's pretty much it for me, just be outgoing so like at the clubs, huh, at the clubs no, no, no. Just be like have your personality, like have an outgoing personality. That way you're not just like I've been with somebody that's just they're just clammed up all the time. They look like they was never having fun, you know yeah, I don't have to be like have fun doing anything.
Speaker 3:We're just walking down the street just making fun, Taking out the trash, just making fun. That's all I want.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 1:That's not bad at all, nothing what you guys said was bad. I'm just answering questions for the fans.
Speaker 3:You didn't even answer the question.
Speaker 1:Oh, for me it's very simple. All you got to do is, like you said, not be, be a bum. I'm not talking about like you gotta have this career. I could give a fuck less about your career, but, uh, you know, be able to have some type of passion where it kind of leads to like monetary. I don't want you to just be, like, just be there. You know I'm saying because, like, eventually you'll get jealous of the shit that I got going on or you'll kind of envy me or whatever. You know.
Speaker 1:So have faith in something. You know we don't have to have faith in the same things, but you should have, like a moral ground, like where you stand. You know Three. I would say, like have an open mind. You know what I'm saying. So everybody knows me at this point. Like, have an open mind, you know what I'm saying. Um, so you, everybody know me about this at this point.
Speaker 1:If you haven't watched the show, if your head is in the fucking rocks and shit, um, you know, like, have an open mind outside of like sexually, like just like, be able to take the uh, let me take the lead and you have an open mind to follow and trust in what I'm going to do. You know what I'm saying, because I mean it's gonna, it's gonna be, it's gonna be a fucking vibe. You know I'm saying it's gonna be cool. I'm not gonna never lead you to a straight. I promise um four would be. Uh, always want to never get comfortable, always want to continue building on yourself. You know I'm saying like if you, if you get comfortable, then that's when a lot of shit stops.
Speaker 2:So comfortable with what I'm sorry.
Speaker 1:As a woman, you should never be comfortable with yourself. You should never be comfortable with me. You should always think that like, okay, I know, if my game ain't here or if my shit ain't here, then I could easily be replaced. Not saying that you are, but saying, but saying that, like, I have confidence in myself and I'm going to keep on just being the better version, the best version of me.
Speaker 1:You know, I'm saying yeah so like I'm not telling you that you gotta go get all these enhancements and shit like that, you gotta have this, this and that, whatever, but you should have that confidence in yourself and you should have that, that fucking shit. We're like I want to make sure that my, since my man is elevated, since my man is always learning, I want to keep on learning, I want to continue to date him. You know what I'm saying? Um, and number five would just be like shit. Just just have peace, have peace in life, like everything shouldn't be negative. You know, like I don't like that negativity shit. If you, if you're a negative person, I can't do it, so I'm gonna chuck the deuces. You know what I'm saying and that's about it. It's pretty simple, you know I don't care about I don't care about what kind of money you make.
Speaker 1:Most girls think that they got to be a lawyer to fuck with us, or be a doctor or be this or be that. What for? Like I'm, I don't keep tabs of your fucking money, that's a bit much. No, but like you, you know they'll be like oh, I'm successful. Like you heard them like. They'll always come on and be like yeah, you know I'm successful, I do my own thing, I'm independent, we'll do it yeah, who gives a fuck?
Speaker 2:but that's mostly because you want, like, a power over somebody, or, yeah, you know, you want somebody to look up at you and say, oh, she has all this going on.
Speaker 1:You know, I want to be with her look, if she, if she's open-minded, fucking and got energy, good energy, I could give a fuck less about the rest. Like you know, you should to a degree, you should try to have your own shit because, like I don't want to ever, I don't want her to ever feel like, oh, she has to rely on me, but at the same time, she should be um, able to be like, okay, well, I could just be in my feminine all the time I can just work on my passions because you know, once you work on your passions it turns into fucking hobbies and monetary and shit like that.
Speaker 1:So all that shit, if you work on that, all that shit, if you're doing what you like, all that shit turns into I like that. That's a good one.
Speaker 3:I didn't think about that yeah.
Speaker 1:And if you ain't grounded?
Speaker 3:I like that. Yeah, I didn't think about that. That shows how much I think about being in a relationship. Yeah.
Speaker 1:Okay, so Okay. So what are what's the worst thing A woman can do in a or my bad? What are the worst things For a woman in a relationship Like what do you mean Worst things for a woman can do in a or my bad?
Speaker 2:What are the worst things for a woman in a relationship Like what do you mean worst?
Speaker 1:things for a woman. Those are the questions I got.
Speaker 2:Like for me that I can do what would be the worst thing that's like.
Speaker 1:That would just end the relationship for you.
Speaker 2:That would end the relationship, Because I don't think don't say cheating, don't say the easy answer. I mean cheating is like the main thing, but most of the time you guys go back to guys that cheat.
Speaker 1:That's true, so that's not I mean, let's be honest, like girls they say that because it sounds good, or women they say it because it sounds good, but they really, really love that dude like nine times out of ten.
Speaker 2:That's true, but I think these days, like women are not falling for that anymore, like they're not taking men back anymore. If you say like I don't want a man who cheats, they're gonna stick with that like I mean, that's just. That's just the one I've seen but back in my past, like yeah, I've taken a man back like thousands of times, but now today, like after that relationship, I'm not taking any man back. If you cheat on me or if I see something that I don't like, it's done for.
Speaker 1:Like there's like plenty of men out here okay but yeah, cheating is the main thing what if he's the man that you want, like he checks off all that shit that you just said? Man of your dreams.
Speaker 2:I don't care. I'd rather be single for the rest of my life too.
Speaker 1:There's nothing wrong with that, I was just asking yeah.
Speaker 2:I think another thing aside from cheating would be maybe if the sex isn't there? Am I allowed to talk about that?
Speaker 1:You can talk about anything you want.
Speaker 2:Yeah, if it's not like if I'm not getting it like we might just have to end the relationship.
Speaker 3:So you're not getting it at all, yeah, or you're just not getting off.
Speaker 2:Like having sex.
Speaker 3:Regularly.
Speaker 2:Yes, regularly, Like consistent.
Speaker 1:Like a girlfriend. Have you ever had a relationship like that though?
Speaker 2:I've never.
Speaker 1:I know a lot of women that has They've been in like, like sexless relationships, and shit, yeah, yeah, you would think it'd be the other way around, you know?
Speaker 3:but um, yeah, I know I know a couple that, yeah, all right, yeah, we ain't doing that. We in it to win it. We go body rocking, knocking the booth yeah, definitely not doing that.
Speaker 1:Um, I will end the relationship okay, yeah, um, I mean I think that a healthy relationship, I think that, um, both, both ends of the relationship, the, the, they should be doing it, they should be trying to stimulate each other.
Speaker 1:I say like that yeah you know, um, because, like like I told you guys before on the last podcast, like you know, I've been side dude, boyfriend number two a couple times in my life. Um, and that would be the number one problem is either they do wasn't paying attention to them or like they wasn't getting it like that and, like you know, he just got pretty much comfortable. Yeah, he'd rather be on the game than fucking. You know, playing the game, if you know what I'm saying. You know what I'm saying. Yeah, so we might be getting it from somewhere else.
Speaker 2:Yeah or yeah. A lot of times that's that's what happens. He might be getting it from somewhere else.
Speaker 1:Yeah, a lot of times that's, that's what happens. He might be getting it from somewhere else, so he's not doing her or whatever. And then you know she's, you know trying to hold it down and she reaches her breaking point or whatever the case may be, or everything sounds good to her because you know he's doing him and you know whatever. So I, I know a woman that she or her dude didn't have sex for like three years. I didn't do nothing with her per se, but no.
Speaker 1:Yeah, they didn't like they wasn't rocking for like she's like I just you know I'm loyal to him. I invested in dildos and shit Three years. I'm like that is nuts so it wasn't like for religious purposes. Nah, like? What I think is that like he'll be getting shit from somewhere else, but like he didn't want to like double dip. You know what I'm saying?
Speaker 1:Like he didn't want to get it from over there and get it here, and so, like they became so comfortable with each other, they had like two kids, I think, or a kid or something like that. And, um, you know, I think personally, like he just really cared about like his game and shit, and then, like he'll do weird shit, like when, when she'll be at work, like he'll leave like middle of the night, type, shit, whatever, and I'm like that's kind of weird.
Speaker 1:But you know, maybe he's fucking somebody else, but you know. But see, I never throw salt on another man's game, so I was. I never told her that, but I'm like well, obviously he and she knew I would have been a bad friend.
Speaker 3:I'd be like listen, sis, I gotta sit you down, I gotta tell you something. I heard three sentences out your mouth and I already know what's going on.
Speaker 1:Yeah you know I be knowing what be going on, like I'll listen.
Speaker 3:You know I'm a good listener, you don't have to like throw salt on his, you know, on another man but you could like I don't know dude, I'm just going to put it out there, okay, so if I don't know, dude, or if I'm not cool with him.
Speaker 1:I'll probably take his girl or something, but not this guy per se. But like, you know what I'm saying. But like, as far as like throwing salt on him, like, for example, I'll give you an example Like you come to me and be like, yeah, my dude, blah, blah, yada, yada, yada, and I'm not ever going to say nothing bad about him, like damn, that's crazy. You know what I'm saying. But like I'm not ever going to say, oh you know, if he don't do you right, I'm going to nah fuck that, so you're just not going to get involved, basically depending on the person I get involved, but like I'm not going to put salt on his name, do the work.
Speaker 1:Oh my gosh okay he'll get involved in his own way yeah. I mean that, but that's just me. You know what I'm saying. But I have a rule. I'm never gonna start another man's game. I just say, yeah, if we both know that this nigga's doing something, I'm like, yeah, I mean I can't say, but that's, I mean that's what you think, yeah so would you ever, at your age now, like would you ever be a side number two again?
Speaker 2:if I'm completely single and I just um, like, from today going forward like side number two, that's a good question.
Speaker 3:That's a good question it depends on the girl.
Speaker 2:I won't be as easy, so you still would be it wouldn't be as easy.
Speaker 1:But, like, I'm not looking for at this time in my life. I'm not looking for, um, somebody like just to just to fuck around with, like, because I don't have to be number two. Just like girls nowadays they're more, they're not hiding no more. They're like yeah, we could be friends with benefits, whatever, blah, blah you know. But, um, I don't know, it depends on the situation. Um, I don't know because it depends on the situation. I don't know, because I don't think I live like life that curious anymore to the point where I want to just be fucking looking over my shoulder and shit, because, like, when you side dude number two, if you a good side dude, you got to learn to do more than you learn her.
Speaker 2:That's great, that's great, so you need to learn him.
Speaker 1:You need to learn his tendencies. You need to learn.
Speaker 2:Why do you need to learn his tendencies?
Speaker 1:Because of his work schedule. No, his work schedule. No, when he, like I, used to be in a. Well, we wanted to end up being in a relationship, but I used to. I was a side dude with this with this one girl. She was kind of married. She was married going through kind of going through a separation, but they were still married.
Speaker 2:You know what?
Speaker 1:I'm saying and she like I learned past shit about this dude. I learned like he gave a girl a miscarriage, like he got another girl pregnant. She wanted to have that miscarriage and I didn't tell the girl nothing. I learned his work schedule, what time he come out, what elevator he come out. I learned all that shit. Oh my gosh.
Speaker 3:Elevator, he come out. Yep, that's crazy.
Speaker 1:I learned that he was working at Mr Childs and shit. You know what I'm saying and you know what time he get off and what days he work and what days he like to stay.
Speaker 2:How did you learn that? Because she told you.
Speaker 1:No, she didn't tell me none of do my due diligence. I had to learn because I got to learn how much time I got, so I don't even like. That trained me not to never park into a stall. Most of the time I back in, Like if I'm going out most of the time, you know, look, I'm going to show you the messages.
Speaker 2:It was that bad you had to reverse into a parking lot.
Speaker 1:You said the obviously like seven, eight years ago. That's crazy. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:Have you ever been inside?
Speaker 3:I can't answer that without my Lord being present.
Speaker 2:Oh my God. So yeah, that's, a yes.
Speaker 3:I've been inside, dude, I ain't gonna lie. I don't think I'll do it anymore, only because I don't even want to be.
Speaker 2:Am I supposed to Read it out loud?
Speaker 3:Start.
Speaker 2:at the very beginning we can read it out loud Okay, I'm not going to say that word.
Speaker 3:I wouldn't read it out loud if I was you.
Speaker 2:Oh, okay, don't traumatize yourself.
Speaker 1:Let me remind you that these hands work. At that time, the only reason why I didn't go chin check him is because it was kids involved. Yeah, so she had kids and stuff like that and I wanted to be in cool with her kids. So how it look for me being their daddy ass and shit. Because you're going to know once I beat daddy ass. You know what I'm saying, but you know me and him ran into each other.
Speaker 2:We didn't have no problems because like you know, he knew us up. I'm talking about this dude right here, oh, okay.
Speaker 3:I've been on enough podcasts. You know the last podcast we did all them stories that came out. Yeah, that's an everyday thing for this man.
Speaker 2:I mean life is good.
Speaker 1:You know what I'm saying, but I don't do that shit, no more. I try not to, you know. Well, I mean especially now, I don't.
Speaker 2:It's not worth it.
Speaker 1:Nah, yeah.
Speaker 2:And they're probably still together.
Speaker 1:No, no, no, no, no, he's a whole other girl, oh really yeah, she just that fast, because that message was recent. Nah, this is a couple years ago, yeah.
Speaker 2:No, I saw the date.
Speaker 1:This is like a couple months ago from like seven, eight, no eight years ago, Nine years ago.
Speaker 2:So he's still pressed about something that happened eight years ago.
Speaker 1:I don't know. I you know he don't like me, but like she's with a whole different dude and she don't engage for a little bit, or whatever the case may be.
Speaker 3:And yeah. God bless him. We're going to throw some prayers out for him for the couple.
Speaker 1:Hopefully he'll get through it, but it's been. I had a dude recently call me. I saw your message on there, like she hit me up. She's like um, she was like hey, I need you to call me. Uh, such and such found out about us and I'm like. This happened 2014 to 2015.
Speaker 3:We found out about us.
Speaker 1:And so, like, so, I'm like, so I hear her. I'm like yo, what up? And she was like yo, such and such found out about us. And I'm like, okay, who gives a fuck? It's like almost 10 years ago. You know what I'm saying. This is she hit me up in 20 at the end of last year, so it was like eight years ago. And I'm like, okay, who gives a fuck? Like, why the fuck do I care?
Speaker 2:You know what?
Speaker 1:I'm saying and she's like so then he jumps on the phone.
Speaker 2:You, you, you. I'm like.
Speaker 1:I'm like nigga, who cares, that's what. I told him. I said are you mad? Because I fucked her at the drive-in and she didn't want to stop? And you've seen, you've seen the messages after like eight years and how she was hitting me up talking about how she missed me and all that shit so you're a professional Lord.
Speaker 2:Have mercy, he's like nah you a pussy.
Speaker 1:I'm like nigga. We was never cool Like you was. You was, you know, slacking on your game. I sent her back to you. Don't get her fucked up. That's crazy, you know what I'm saying, because I didn't want nothing to do. Number two, I mean no, no, what. I wouldn't pursue her unless, like, I got a really, really, really like her. But at this point in time in my life, like you know, I'm trying to keep things more peaceful.
Speaker 2:So she tells you she's in a relationship you would back off.
Speaker 1:I'm going to keep shit cool regardless, you know you still talk to her. As a maybe as a friend, but not like try to get at her. Okay, and that's how it leads to being side number two when you, you know I have a lot of female friends, but I'm not actively trying to get at them.
Speaker 2:No, I understand, but if you're talking to somebody, she tells you she's in a relationship. I'm not flirting with her, okay, so she is, she, you know, get you.
Speaker 1:She gets to whiff the cocaine ladies and you know saying, I mean that'd be on her.
Speaker 2:I'm just trying to make sure you know no guys are a side. Number two is because it just looks bad on them because women these days like it's more of a power for them to have a side number two and know like oh, for them to have a side number two and know like, oh yeah, that's just my, my little boy toy.
Speaker 3:I'm just saying, now that you mentioned it, I feel like it's like different for guys though, because we can keep that step for him strong. You know, I'm saying if we can see that that they flirting like I got people like wives in my phone, that they they text me a little bit too friendly, even though we just like work together. You know, I'm saying I keep that step for him strong females, yeah, females all the time.
Speaker 3:They do it all the time. Yeah, I have to contact them and do certain things. You know what I'm saying, but they keep pushing the issue you know what I'm saying Like they want to have A different conversation Than business.
Speaker 2:Yeah, they're trying to Like throw hints.
Speaker 3:Exactly so. Sometimes you got to keep that Stiff arm Like almost got to.
Speaker 1:Palm them in their face, like they On a daily basis, like motherfuckers, get mad at you. I express interest to you, okay, yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you go crazy Like you haven't even had like the D yet and you're going crazy like that.
Speaker 1:Or I have motherfuckers make up shit. I'm like yo, man, you didn't fuck Like. What the fuck Like why you are older than me? Why are you telling people that we, we're doing this, like you know, cause it'd be like a competition to them and shit. Like I got this guy, you know, with us it'd just be like, yeah, we, you know some of the dudes that knows his lane and shit. Like you know, I ain't about to be like hey, aj, I got this girl nah man like.
Speaker 1:What I do is between me and her you know what I'm been doing it now?
Speaker 2:if you haven't been, you know living life, then maybe it is a competition so say, you meet a woman and there is a competition like there's plenty of men wanting to be with her. Would you pursue that?
Speaker 1:or, if you're comfortable with being inside, well in my mind, in my mind, um every girl has a million dudes kicking down her door in my head, yeah.
Speaker 2:You know what I'm saying In your head.
Speaker 1:Nah, it's the truth. Like they inbox probably a million motherfuckers. Everybody's her play brother or something like that, or her homeboy, her work cousin.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and that nigga like give him an opportunity.
Speaker 1:If you like, yeah, come, he gonna fuck. So like he gonna want to fuck. So like, if you give him an opportunity, he gonna want to do that. So like, um, in my head, like every girl, even the undesirable girls, they still got somebody in the inbox kicking down their doors and shit like that, so are you a competitor, or if I want her if I want, if I want her, if I want that woman, then I'm gonna compete.
Speaker 1:I'll compete, but at the end of the day it's rip to the competition. You know what I'm saying. But if I don't really care about her, like okay, go fuck with those guys over there, like you could come my way, but like I'm not about to like do anything If you're telling me that this guy is doing this or this guy is doing that, or if I see it, or power to the brother, but if I really really like her and it's I haven't really had too many girls that I really really like to me, to for me to, you know, fucking compete. You know what I'm saying. Like it's too many girls in the sea, like you know what I'm saying. So if I'm going to compete, if I'm going to say RIP to the competition, okay, then you know I'm going to move all these niggas out the way, point blank.
Speaker 1:Everybody take an L once and twice in their life. You know what I'm saying. You know I took a couple L's in my life before, but at the end of the day I came back stronger. You know what I'm saying. Came back on bull.
Speaker 3:I'll say this if it's like, oh, she really like somebody you really want, lose is not an option.
Speaker 2:You don't get her, it's not an option but sometimes, once you get her, the fun is done like you don't even want the relationship.
Speaker 1:For me it don't be fun like it'd be like you know I'm saying because like to me it's not fun. You know I'm saying like the competition is not a thrill to me. You know I'm saying I compete every day, so like so some of these guys is not competing every day. That's not, that's something that's a thrill. You know I'm saying you know.
Speaker 1:but you know, if I want something, I'm gonna go get it without having to take it. You know what I'm saying. So that's just my mentality, that's my model, and you know I'm just going to show her what the deal is. But if she's not feeling that, if she don't think that I'm consistent enough, if she don't think that I'm this enough, if she don't think that I'm that enough, and if she want to go over here, I guarantee you, I promise this is all my life. I guarantee you, six months down the road you're going to say hey, big head, I hope not.
Speaker 2:That's what always happens that way.
Speaker 1:They hit you with that. Hey, big head, they go liking everything on your fucking social media and shit.
Speaker 2:That's how you know. Oh yeah, that shit didn't work. Reviewing your stories yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:That shit didn't work out With homeboy. You know what I'm saying? Because all that nigga Just wanted to do was fuck. And guess what? I'm showing you? More Than just a fuck, you know. If I just wanted to fuck, I'm gonna let that be known.
Speaker 3:I just want to fuck. I was about to say, because most of the time it's like With dudes like us. It's the energy that you can show Like, hey, if you really want somebody that hit you up, good morning every single morning, like the energy we show that we've given off to you is like hey, my time's valuable, I don't want to be creeping around with you. You know what I mean.
Speaker 1:And like.
Speaker 3:Usually the girl sees that and they start giving you more time and everything like that, and you vice versa.
Speaker 2:Yeah, especially when they see you like falling back and not sending those texts in the morning anymore.
Speaker 1:if somebody falls back for me, most of the time I don't fall back. Why am I about to chase you?
Speaker 3:That's the best move, yeah, like okay, go fall back.
Speaker 1:Go fall into a fucking John Cox fucking lab. I don't give a fuck.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:If I really like you, then I'm going to try to correct the issue. I'm going to be like yo, like what's going on? It's just a little off. You know what I'm saying. You falling back. You know why. You know what I'm saying. Like let's, let's communicate before. Like I'd be like, okay, cool, I'm gonna leave you alone. You know what I'm saying. Or let's communicate before, so I could fix a problem that might be. You know, you fall back, you fall back. I don't have time enough in my day to be chasing.
Speaker 3:It's actually a favor if you fall back honestly yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, Because if a man chases you like that, like just don't pursue it.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:It's going to be the worst relationship you'll ever have in your life.
Speaker 3:You telling us if a man chases us like that?
Speaker 1:No, she's saying to the fans to the fans, oh no.
Speaker 2:She's talking to the fans, I'm just speaking in general, yeah, in women particularly.
Speaker 3:I mean, I'll take advice both ways, if you're doing it like that yeah, listen, you gotta get who you fit in, yeah no but, now you really do, though it's 2024.
Speaker 1:You know, I'm saying nobody judging yeah, yes, I mean, I don't know like I don't think most, most women to me is just not that interesting. That's, that's crazy.
Speaker 2:That's cause you've been messing with so many women Like I mean, that's what I got from the last you know podcast.
Speaker 3:Like I mean, but the four stories.
Speaker 1:I mean like okay, most of the time let's, let's, let's weigh it out, and I but let's be honest, okay, you can throw me some pussy Cool Kudos to you, okay. So, other than that, what are you really doing? That really stands out. You know what I'm saying. Are you doing this, this and that? You know what I'm saying. I haven't cooked in a long time. I could cook.
Speaker 1:Don't get this shit fucked up. I'll cook for my woman, but I never to um, because they enjoy doing that shit. So what can you? What can you do besides say, oh, I'm independent, I do this for myself, for me, and and throw me some pussy. Mostly, most women can't get outside that. Just throwing some pussy, that's that's, that's not that interesting so how interesting does she have to be?
Speaker 2:like, like, because at the end of the day, we all do, we can all do the same things. Look, go ahead AJ we can, we can all cook, we can all clean.
Speaker 1:Not everybody, I don't even care. I mean, I've done a lot of tutorials online.
Speaker 2:I don't care about the cleaning, I'm just saying, like you know, I clean self.
Speaker 1:What I need you to clean for you, just clean up after yourself. You know what I'm saying. I'll be a clean woman, but okay, yeah, I'll say what we were talking about earlier the vibe.
Speaker 3:The vibe has to be right, you know I mean like you have to have a good time all the time. You know what I mean. Like you said, you can cook, you can clean and most y'all can't. We can cook, we can do everything else in the world.
Speaker 3:You can clean my car. You can do. You should be the perfect girlfriend ever. It's like somebody else can do that too. You know what I mean. Like for us, like the vibe, the time we spend together. We're always laughing, we always have making memories, we're always, you know, doing things traveling what if you have that same vibe with like five people?
Speaker 2:you know, trust me, I know I have a vibe, that vibe with one person.
Speaker 3:Right now, I'm not telling myself. I have like five other people right now, vibe just doesn't come with anybody else but that one person. That's why I'm always around that one person. You know I mean, and she hates me because she knows I got other girls, but it's like I'm always gonna come back home.
Speaker 1:I'm running streets with my thugs, but come back home to you, because our vibe is right, it's perfect, and she knows that and let's be honest, like a girl, a woman hates when you let them know that you have other options, right, but at the same time, if she really like you, she respects it because she's like okay, well, I know that I'm not the only one, but I had to prove to this man why I should be the only one. Okay, like, if you can't prove, if you didn't think you could do with me or even this man right here, because I didn't seen him like. You know, if you feel that you can do what you did with Chauncey over here, just be all dainty and pretty and throw him some box. That ain't gonna work, sweetheart, I'm telling you right now it ain't gonna work.
Speaker 2:I just feel like I don't need to prove myself to anybody.
Speaker 1:That mentality is bad?
Speaker 2:I don't know how is it bad? Because I'm just gonna be me regardless.
Speaker 1:That's why I feel like you don't, yeah, but at the end of the day, right, like, let's say, you, right, are not that person, like you're just regular degular. Okay, regular degular, I'm going to view you as regular degular, but if your vibes is that infectious, if you stand out upon these other women because, like I think, a lot of women, they think that I, they, all we have to do, or all they have to do is just offer sex, have a nice bbl. You know what I'm saying whatever, just be cute you know I'm saying then they didn't.
Speaker 1:Motherfuckers is flocking, yeah, yeah, the average guy is flocking because they want to fuck. But then, like after you like all right, let's be honest, after you run, get ran through, run your cycle and then, like that energy comes off, the other man like, yes, he'll run through, right. So then the only guys that you're going to be getting is dudes that want to fuck or the guys that you probably don't want, that you have to settle with you.
Speaker 1:Might you might get these upper tier niggas. But let's be honest, is he there to like really be there or is he there just to fuck? That's the question. So a lot of women, they don't understand that. Uh, and I'm gonna talk about man next. Don't think I'm just grilling women, but a lot of women they just don't understand that it's more to just being pretty and throwing pussy. You know what I'm saying. Like, think about it. Everybody got a BBL. Now that's more normal than not normal.
Speaker 2:But that's not just for any regular man. The BBL is for, like elite men, not for children on the street or jug in the box.
Speaker 1:But if all these elite men hidden and you just to run through with the bbl I want to answer your, your question real quick.
Speaker 3:Well, not really answer your question, but you said why do you have to prove yourself? Yeah, I'll put like this and men, all the time we have to prove ourselves to women, whether y'all subconsciously or not, whether y'all know it or not, like you said earlier, you want to do this. Six, eight, you want to do that. Oh, he don't got to be handsome, he can be too. You know what. He gotta be funny. You say he gotta have a good job. He gotta do x, y and z. You know I'm saying he probably has to have a nice car but that's his face, that's him like exactly because that's how we do.
Speaker 3:Subconsciously. We've proven ourselves to get a mate with y'all, when most women are like I'm not just attacking you because taj gets attacked all the time.
Speaker 1:so right now you just be right now, you're just getting the perspective of two men.
Speaker 3:So pretty much what men do our whole lives pretty much is trying to be the best that we can to be attractive, to be. You know what I'm saying? A getter mate to be. Oh, pretty much prove ourselves to somebody else. You know what I'm saying? That men work their whole life to get those yachts and then the women they just come and hop on the yachts. You know what I'm saying? So it's like of a woman that we can, if we know we can get all the women on our yacht because we just work so hard for it. We don't want another way. We ain't gonna marry none of the women on them guys, they just have we just having a good time with them. Yeah, we want somebody that's gonna what prove themselves to us. That's what I'm not getting, though.
Speaker 2:What does she need to do to stand out, because she should just be her.
Speaker 3:Everything we said earlier. Yeah, and then like being her.
Speaker 2:I think, like some, a woman to stand out would have to be like more nurturing, more loving.
Speaker 1:There you go, there you go you just answer your own questions.
Speaker 2:Okay, there go, you just answer your own questions, you know? Okay, there you go. Any woman?
Speaker 1:could do that. No, no, because, like I said, they said what did I do? Why do I gotta prove myself? I gotta prove myself to nobody. I'm a boss bitch. I'm independent, this, I'm that, right, um, right, I take care of me and my kids. Well, that's great. You're doing your job right. But, uh, but okay, I tell women all this all the time. It's simple shit. Show him that you're there, right, if you like this guy, right, and this is just with me. This is how we people around, right, and she is saying good morning. The first thing she do, she get up Before she even brush her teeth. She's telling you good morning, I'll take this as a good morning. I hope you have a good day. Cool, now that tells me okay, damn, before she even posts, you know, because you know you guys are wired just to jump on Instagram and TikTok and shit.
Speaker 1:Before she even do that. Like she's telling me that damn, she thought about me, cool, that's free, right there. You, that's free, right there. You know, yeah, she's hitting me up. You know when she's out and about you know if we have that type of relationship. Oh, I'm at the store, um, do you need anything? Or I noticed that you was running when I was at your house, or I noticed that you're doing, you, you about to go work 16, 18 hours. I'm gonna go get you a smoothie because I know you like smoothies. Okay, boom, that's right there. That's that's fucking checking out the ride and she's always trying to make sure she's fucking sexy, even in the house.
Speaker 1:We ain't talking about all made up and shit. I'm talking about like, I'm just talking about like this, like this. So if you like I come over and you could just be in your pajamas, but like you looking sexy in your pajamas, I come over and you could just be in your pajamas, but you looking sexy in your pajamas, you know what I'm saying. I don't even care about you doing your hair and shit like that. But if you have sex appeal, because for me I like a girl in some pants, nice shirt, that's more sexy because I could envision what I want to do If I'm already seeing what I could do. That means that everybody's seeing that shit. You know what I'm saying. I'm just saying so. That means that everybody's seeing that shit. You know what I'm saying. I'm just saying so. She wearing like those it's summer in Vegas, it's about 120. She wearing those ass tight shorts and shit. You know what I'm saying? Tank top. I mean that's everybody. See that. It's cool.
Speaker 1:You know what I'm saying. What are you doing to stand out? That's a regular degular. You know what I'm saying. Some nice pants, you know what I'm saying. Some that fits your body or whatever, and like, you let it know. You smell good and you let it know that you, that bitch, but you with me, nobody else could even fucking even have a conversation. You know what I'm saying. You polite, but you fucking, you know you mean. At the same time you say, oh yeah, that's going to turn into someone even more. You know what I'm saying, but we know that you're for everybody.
Speaker 2:We're going to teach you as such, I guess I mean but it is that hard, all that shit is free, right? I don't know. Maybe it's subjective, because I know all guys probably don't think like that.
Speaker 3:No we do Okay.
Speaker 1:We do, except the ones that's like overly horny and shit, that's not, you know what I'm saying. Like you know, they just trying to fuck. Like I mean, but if I wanted to fuck you, I'm just going to let you know, I just want to fuck you. Yeah, you know what? X, y, z, I'm talking to two girls, I'm talking to three girls. This is what I want. I even drop them some little nuggets, some hits shit, and you know they up for the challenge, cool.
Speaker 2:I don't like that, though, because I think some women and I'm not bashing women, but I think some women like they know what to do to have a man right and get a man like oh oh, I know that I have to be nurturing and loving and be the submissive woman and, you know, keep myself up, or whatever the case may be.
Speaker 2:But I think, like sometimes you can have an agenda like I think women will do their research and, sure you know, see what they like, and they're not even the woman for them, though like I don't think that's fair at all like what's not fair that some women have an agenda like they can research him what he likes, the type of women he wants, and you could do all of this just by going some on someone's instagram and viewing their stories and their memes, whatever they post, and boom, they got that man. Like locked the man, they reeled him in, basically and that happens all the time, yeah yeah, and like I don't think that's, that's fair. I think that you know, everybody should just be themselves rather than that is true.
Speaker 2:Everything should be a person and and because you're saying you like all these things right and all men I don't really like too many things, but yeah.
Speaker 2:But if I were to study you and I'd be like, oh okay, I'm not doing it because I want to be with you. I'm doing it because maybe I have some kind of agenda, like I know you have a good job, I know you have money, like maybe that's why I'm doing that. So you're thinking, oh, I have a nice woman who's nurturing and loving and you know she likes me, she's doing all these little small things.
Speaker 1:But Okay, I say this to say that I agree with you. I'm not disagreeing with you at all, but guess what? Me personally, and this is just me I'm going to get what I need, saying so like you can have some type of agenda or whatever, but I'm going to get what I need. I mean, yeah.
Speaker 1:I guess that is true Because, like for me, like I like traveling, I like being out, no matter when I'm. Anytime I'm out, 90, 85% of the time, 85% of the time. I want somebody when I'm out. You know what I'm saying. I could take, like I said before, I could take a prostitute out. Whoa, you know what I'm saying. It is what it is, but it's not about me taking that person out. It's about the memories that we create when we're out. So I'm not going to create memories with a prostitute, obviously, right. But, um, the person that I'm with, if I take her on a trip with me and we're going to create a lot of memories to, it's always going to be in the back of your head. I'm gonna make sure it's alive, right? So if I can't, let me catch game, let me, you know, keep game. Then guess what cool I'm gonna. We're gonna play this game. I see what you're doing yeah I read it.
Speaker 1:I could read real good, you know, I'm saying I read it, I see it, and then okay, cool, yeah, you're gonna keep on, just keep on bringing me peace and uh, you know. But when you start seeing me pull back, and you know, and I tell you, uh, yeah, it ain't working don't, don't, don't, be mad, yeah maybe I was just being a hater, I don't know.
Speaker 1:No, no, that wasn't a hater, because like a lot of girls do have agendas, but, like I've been around a lot of women all my life, so I understand that majority, majority of women have an agenda and majority of women, um, they have a lot of niggas. They have a lot, yeah, you know. So I'm, I'm aware of it. Even they, even they're not talking to all these guys. They have options, you know, and I'm not. You know, so that's why I got to be the best me. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3:And most of us we can peep game immediately, like when we go on cruises. We tell people that we something anyway. So even if they didn't have an agenda right when they first met us, immediately they thinking, oh, how can we get in with this? You know, I mean so we can pick what's genuine, what's not immediately. You know, I mean.
Speaker 3:So that's why I said it's like you have to have a certain type of time, you know, with that person yeah like it has to be 1000 genuine, authentic, because if it's not, I'm gonna be able to tell, like if you use all your attitude all the time or you, just I can tell that you faking it, like you're not genuine. Like we can look in your eyes like okay it's not going down.
Speaker 1:I'll look into a motherfucking soul. Yeah, I'll look into a motherfucking soul. Stare them down in depth, best believe you're gonna be blizzacked, yeah on everything. A lot of women got a cold soul. You know what I'm saying. You look them in the eyes and shit. You look them into their soul and say this is dark. You don't see shit behind those eyes.
Speaker 3:Okay you know, it's just a wall you're scaring me now y'all scaring us. We've been scared.
Speaker 1:We do my tiptoeing okay, so would you guys ever have? This is a question would you guys ever have a poly relationship? A who a poly relationship? Polygamy?
Speaker 2:polygamy you.
Speaker 3:Polygamy. You know what that is.
Speaker 2:Like when there's one man and like sister wives and all in the house.
Speaker 3:A guy said it was cool, Nah, nah nah, nah, I wouldn't. I said a guy said it was cool. Nah, nah, definitely nah.
Speaker 1:I wouldn't Well? Some God said at school yeah, Some people's God.
Speaker 3:I don't know Somebody's false God, but I don't judge yeah.
Speaker 2:So for me it's been a thought Especially. You know I always. I don't know why I keep bringing up my age, but as I've gotten older, yeah, like I've thought about Just Having a man being a sister wife. And being a sister wife and not actually like because I know there's women who, you know, mess around with each other Like I don't want to mess around with a girl. I actually want my own place, Like. I don't want to share a home and be in my house.
Speaker 1:I know somebody like that, like they all know about each other, they're all sisters Like, so they'll go to like events together.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Or like sometimes he'll, he'll like take, like, okay, I'm taking her to this concert, I'm taking her to that. You know what I'm saying. That way it won't look odd and shit, yeah, but or they have. They have their separate date nights, but they have, you know, group things where they do shit too, but they all know about each other. So it's not like he's playing them, because they all know about each other and they all help take care of each other, but none of them mess around. They're just his wives, his sister wives and shit it would be cool to have multiple wives.
Speaker 3:Yeah, but nah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and I mean, if he doesn't look good, then most likely it's going to be for the income. Yeah, why I relationship? Yeah, um, and people know that too.
Speaker 1:Like most, I think that most relationships are business. Yeah, that's true, um you know especially, yeah, especially nowadays, because if you look at why people are together and why they haven't broken up, um, they only haven't broken up because they either fucking, they're intertwined some kind of way. They got kids together. They don't want to separate that. They got a lot of debt together. They don't want to separate that.
Speaker 2:They got a lot of debt together where they don't want to break that apart, or they've been together and they don't want to start over.
Speaker 1:You know, I know a woman that was together with this guy for 15 years. Like she don't really know how to date. You know what I'm saying. Like she's they was together for 15 years, yeah. And like she don't want to start all over yeah, you know that sounds like me what about you.
Speaker 2:You was in some yeah, I was in a relationship the one I was in that I just got out of for 14 years, and before that I was with someone for like in my teenage years, and now I feel like it's gotten harder to meet people and actually know they're genuine, and everybody that I've been meeting has been younger than me, like 20s, 24.
Speaker 3:So it's like Listen, get in when you fit in.
Speaker 2:I've tried it multiple times and it's just not me. I have a grown son. I don't want to have two grown sons oh, get one of his friends.
Speaker 3:Yeah you good, no, no no, no, no no no, you might like you. No, I know one of his best friends are coming over to the house. I already know. No, just go ahead. You do it. Bite the bullet.
Speaker 2:Have you some fun and one of them, like they just kept asking me for money, so I'm like I'm only at the time the younger, younger guy yeah.
Speaker 1:Damn. So he thought you was a sugar mama.
Speaker 2:I guess so, Because I'm like I'm only 35. How can I be a sugar mama at 35?
Speaker 3:You know You'll be surprised. You'll be surprised.
Speaker 2:I don't know like how that's even possible, but I guess nowadays then the person like you're considered a sugar mama basically, but yeah, I was paying for things, like I would get him something to eat, or he'll like text me and be like, hey, can you, you know, grab me some Jack in the Box, and I'll be like okay, you know.
Speaker 1:He lives in Vegas.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Sound homeless he thought you was a sugar mama slash, like he thought he was pimping.
Speaker 2:He's like, yeah, I got this, yeah, and then I talked to somebody you know on Instagram.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2:And he was young too, and first thing he said was like, oh, can I, can you give me $40? And I'm like $40?.
Speaker 1:First thing he said $40.
Speaker 2:Not the first thing, but like you know, after a conversation or two, can you?
Speaker 3:that is nuts. Yeah, that's crazy for a haircut oh, I'm like oh, okay yeah um, I think it's like 20.
Speaker 2:I think it's 24 too.
Speaker 1:Yeah that's crazy. When I was 24, I never asked for no shit like that like I had a girl paying my insurance. That's because, like I'll tell her no and she'll be like, yeah, but other than that, like I never, I never asked a woman for anything. If anything, I I'd be like go get a tip, get the tip, I'm going to pay for it. We're going to pay for dinner, but like I don't really carry cash or anything like that, so have some cash for the tip for the waiter, that's it.
Speaker 2:Yeah. So I know, like dating young is not for me either, like I don't want to be those women who you know have to rely on, like a younger guy, to be in a house or around you know, because I can't get anybody else.
Speaker 3:Like yeah, that's wild. Yeah, you 35. You so young, so yeah.
Speaker 2:I'm 36 now.
Speaker 3:Oh dang, you sold us 35.
Speaker 1:That's crazy I was. She was 35. Oh, that's right. Yeah, I forgot I mean your presence.
Speaker 3:That's what I meant to say, yeah you'll surprise next podcast.
Speaker 2:So damn, that's crazy yeah, yeah that's real crazy but back to the polygamy. Yeah, it's, it's still with me, like I still have that mindset when it comes to polygamy.
Speaker 1:I used to, I used to want to when I was like a kid, when I was younger, like I didn't know.
Speaker 2:It was, like you know, polygamy I just never wanted that when I was younger.
Speaker 1:Uh, when I was like a kid I'm talking about like a kid, like an adolescent and shit. Like I used to like be playing with my cars and be like okay, I'm gonna have three girlfriends, yeah, yeah. And so, like, as I got older, like in my when I was like 18, 19, no, no, I was 20 and I had three euros and like two of them was down for it you know what I'm saying. But the one, the one I liked the most, wasn't down for it. Yeah, and so I was like fuck it, you know, I just had both of them. Like I ain't trying to pep no girls or anything like that.
Speaker 1:But I was, I was definitely down, for I mean, I I think it depends on where I'm at in my life. Um, I don't, women are hard. You know. I'm saying women are time consuming, women are expensive, you know, even if they're not doing nothing, they're still expensive. So, you know, having three or whatever, that's expensive, that's an expensive game to have. You know. I'm saying I rather, I rather just like I think I'm attracted to a gemini because you know, that's all I ever really, you know, really been in relationship to it. And saying they have just being with a Gemini, because you know, that's all I ever really, you know, really been in relationship to it and seeing they have just being with a Gemini, they have like more than one personality. No offense, they have more than one personality. I don't agree. But you know, so I really just play with those personalities. But I mean, if it was like that, perfect situation, probably so I don't know. But like I'm not even into threesomes, no more. So oh yeah, that's crazy, yeah yeah, that's crazy.
Speaker 2:I've never had a threesome.
Speaker 1:Don't want to I don't even know how you guys do it like that's.
Speaker 2:It's a lot of work, but the first.
Speaker 1:The first two was wasn't, wasn't me like. I never asked for it. They brung it to me. I'm like I ain't no punk.
Speaker 3:You know what I'm saying you know I do it yeah but it's a lot of work you gotta jump in.
Speaker 1:That's what happened, uh, something like that. The first one was terrible, second was solid. Everyone was like no. The second one was, and everyone was solid that's too much.
Speaker 2:Like I like to focus on one person at a time, like now, me in my life.
Speaker 1:Now, that's what that's how it is now, like I like to focus on one person at a time, now me and my life. Now, that's how it is now. Like I like to focus on her. That's it. You know what I'm saying. I focus on they no.
Speaker 3:I don't even want to be single man. I mean, like I don't even want to have one girl. I can't even imagine having one, two, three, four. That's crazy. It takes a lot of stamina too, yeah, Like I'm single, to take a lot of work just to talk to all these people.
Speaker 2:So that's a lot. It's a headache, yeah.
Speaker 1:You know, trying to cause. You know, like me, I'm, like I'm not. I'm not going to say I'm a perfectionist, but like I, I'm learn all her spots and stuff like that and learn what really turns her on. And I got this other one and it was like now I got to try to. You know, yeah, you running a business.
Speaker 1:I mean hey, hey, that's your fantasy Kudos to you. I got this one last question and then we'll get the fuck out of here. Um, we'll talk about well, I'll leave that for another podcast they send you questions live man.
Speaker 1:They send me a lot of questions oh, okay, okay, okay all right, so, um so, since we're in these topics, so at the end of the game is always a big picture, right? Um? Like, dating in a relationship is always a big picture. So would you take the sacrifice so won't compromise the big picture, or would you not sacrifice things and just end things because you don't care about the big picture?
Speaker 3:I'll say, if we're going to be in it to win it like getting married, then no, the big picture we got to be sacrificing.
Speaker 1:So would you take a sacrifice of, like, okay, the meme that they sent me and then they sent the question, but like, like I gotta kinda say it, so it makes sense. They sent me, it was this, it was this woman with um. No, it was this woman. She was dating this guy with kids. Yeah, and she had kids yeah he only wanted to take the biological kids out somewhere, but he didn't want to take the stepkids out.
Speaker 2:Oh, was it like the trip or the graduation? It was like a graduation. He only wanted to take his son on the trip because he wanted to spend time with him.
Speaker 1:But he didn't want to take the stepkids.
Speaker 3:And were they married or what? Let's say?
Speaker 1:they weren't married okay. Or let's say they were dating. They were what? Or just let's say they weren't married, okay, would you? Or let's say they were dating. They were seriously dating, they've been dating for like 10 years.
Speaker 3:Let's say that that's crazy.
Speaker 1:10 years okay, let's say five years. That's so crazy, I know. Okay, let's go with five years, you know? And um, he wanted to take his biological kids, but not the you know, the step kids. What is your thoughts on that?
Speaker 3:I feel like that's kind of messed up. I mean, if you're dating for five years, you should already notice baggage. These other kids are coming at that point. You don't know, I already adopted another kid oh yeah, it was that one, yeah you might as well just take it.
Speaker 3:They were in the same grade, so yeah, I say I had a son, a daughter and another daughter right with my son's graduating, and then she had like a son daughter, another daughter right, and it's the one son is graduating. We're gonna take him on the trip. Okay, that's one thing. It's his graduation, everybody else will need to go, but I'm taking my kids. I feel like that's pretty messed up, you know. I mean, I don't care about your kids, like how you feel about that.
Speaker 2:I feel like we can all go on the trip. If you want to spend time with your biological child, you can like. Just if you want to spend time with your biological child, you can. If you want to go to a different part of the island or whatever, go ahead, feel free, but we're still all going. As a family, we're a unit.
Speaker 1:Man no.
Speaker 2:I'm just kidding, I'm joking, I mean it makes sense For me.
Speaker 1:That's the thing when I talk about single moms and stuff like that or whatever. If I get with her, knowing that she has kids, I'm accepting those kids as my kids, so even if they got bad. But, like I said, there's some fucking law and order in this motherfucking. Like I would never put my hand on nobody else's kids, I would discipline them and at the same time I'm going to let their daddy know if their daddy's in the picture or they're daddies. But I'm like you know doing it. You know, um, hey, this is this is the, this is the rules. You know.
Speaker 1:I'm saying I'm if I'm taking care of your kids which is my kids now because we're cohabitating together then I'm disciplining them but at the same time, like I'm gonna take care of them and they're they're looked at as mine. You know, I'm saying so like I'm not gonna buy those. These are my stepkids, all these are my kids, even if I'm not, because even like the kids that I dealt with in the past, like I still look at them as my kids. It's just that, like I'm not with they mama, no more. But if I see them in the street, if I see them or whatever the case is, if I see them, period, I'm going to make sure they're straight. You know, yeah, like I mean, if it like I have my son and you know, if the woman she let's say she had two, three kids or whatever, well, I guess I got four kids.
Speaker 1:I'm taking on this trip, right, you know, and you know, but I'm gonna, obviously I'm gonna have some stuff for him. It's like the kids I coach. Obviously I'm gonna have some stuff for my son because this is his moment. Obviously I'm gonna have, you know, he's gonna have some, some shit set aside or I'm gonna do something special for him.
Speaker 1:But you know, at the same time, like, for example, like my son's brother, like I don't fully take care of him, but like when I buy my son's school shoes, I buy the brother's school shoes and I buy my son's school supplies, his brother's school supplies, my kid, but I'm, you know, I was never really you know, you know the situation. But at the same time, when kids is involved, I don't care how old they are, like I'm gonna look at them, like a certain way, I'm not gonna do one one for you know for the other, and I teach my son like that too. Like if you get into a situation, you know, do for everybody, just don't do for one, unless it's like that, you know it's like I'll take my son certain places. I'm not taking his brother, obviously you know. But like if, if I'm with somebody, I'm going to take those kids too.
Speaker 3:I like that, you know it's almost like my bad, but it's almost like the McDonald's situation, I think. Like a step daddy he's dropping off his kid right and to the baby mama and the baby mama had like, of course, like four different different baby daddies and kids or whatever, and he only gave his kid McDonald's to go into the house, whatever. And baby mama come out and was like how come you didn't get everybody else McDonald's? Well, them ain't my kids well it's like that's the thing.
Speaker 3:I'm not involved, like you said, I'm not involved with those kids. You know what I'm saying? I got love for them, kids nothing bad happened to them.
Speaker 2:Those ain, if you see that the daddy who's not even in the home bringing his kids something you know doing something for the child, you can go out and go buy the rest of the kids some meals. You could do that.
Speaker 3:But if you're not involved, it's like you don't need to do that. But if you do have some kind of heart, okay, you're a solid dude. But if it's like, all right, we've been involved for five years and we've been in a relationship and I know these kids, these kids live with me. Okay, yeah, you're going on a trip, that's different. But if it's just I'm just dropping off my kid and your kids there, yeah, no, I don't that man in that particular situation.
Speaker 2:he didn't look like he, you know, was even fit to have that much McDonald's money.
Speaker 1:That's crazy. I'm just saying but guess what, if I'm dealing with somebody and I'm aware, like I made the conscious decision to fuck with her, and knowing that she has children okay, well, I don't give a fuck how good their dad is, you know what I'm saying? Like I'm still gonna have to accept them as mine. That's why I say there's a fine line between dating women with kids, like on the last podcast that we were talking about you know what.
Speaker 1:I'm saying because, like, because here's the logic, how we look at it. This is why it's a little bit harder for us, because when we look at kids, if you a solid dude, you're going to love those kids and take care of those kids forever, no matter what. You know what I'm saying. For example, like my grandfather, even though him and my grandma got a divorce, he still look like my mom, my fucking uncle and, you know, my aunt, his mama, like like those is his kids you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 1:yeah, and so he never single shit out. And that's the same thing with. Like me, I don't give a fuck how mad I am at the mom. You know what I'm saying like, even if I buy something for my son and send my son in with. You know what I'm saying Like even if I buy something for my son and send my son in with an extra taco or a burger for his brother or whatever.
Speaker 2:You know what I'm saying, but that's just me.
Speaker 1:I feel like you knew, you consciously knew the situation and you know you stopped picking single moms. You know what I'm saying. Like, if that's the case the situation, those kids fuck with those kids, like they yours.
Speaker 3:You know what I'm saying and we can go back to the big daddy situation, because it's like we locked in with that family forever now with auntie Jewel, uncle Jason, everything like that. You know what I'm saying. We locked in with them forever. So it's like the type of man you are that can go generations as in like is your're going to spite him forever? You know what I mean. So it's like big daddy never did that. He took care of everybody. You know what I mean?
Speaker 1:Yeah, even like the last girl I was dating. Like whenever I did if I I mean, I'm not even boasting about it or whatever Like whenever I did something to me and her son was pretty close, you know what I'm saying. Like I'll make Coming to her house with my son or whatever. Like I'm going to make sure both of them are straight. You know what I'm saying. Like if I'm coming over with food for the mom, I'm coming over with food for him. You know what I'm saying. Like that's just how it is.
Speaker 1:You know, if I'm buying his mom snacks, I'm buying her snack. I mean him snacks, whatever the case may be. You know, and that's that. You know it's a fine line, it's a sticky situation but at the end of the day, like, as men, we had to. You know, we had to use discernment and you know what I'm saying, because it's not just about the mom, or you know, it's about the kids too, you know. So, yeah, you knew what you was doing when you wanted to slide up in that hole. You know, I feel like you gonna be involved you gotta involve everybody.
Speaker 1:You know what I'm saying, that's a moral story and then, like I say, but they, they the mom with that, stay you gotta know your lane. Like, if you deal with somebody that has kids, you gotta know your lane. Pick your poison man. You know what I'm saying, like because that's, that's a rich man's game. I don't care what nobody says. Then we get benefits from these women. That is a rich man's game. Like that's a rich hobby.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you know what I'm saying because that's why I don't judge men if they say they don't want a female with kids.
Speaker 3:Like more power to you I tell people all the time. I say hey, single parents damaged goods don don't date it Myself, don't date me. I'll be telling a girl yeah, I got a kid. Yeah, but I'm mom or daddy and I'm with her all the time. Don't date me. They just keep coming.
Speaker 1:If you want to date I say this every podcast if you want be the ultimate guy first, because, like, at the end of the day, you only view, you judge off a certain amount of things. I'm not about to go into detail because we're about to wrap, but, you know, build you first. And I say this this is hindsight, fucking looking in, because I've been here before build yourself and everything else follows. Now I'm not saying, you know, if you want to, you know, do the humpty, humpty shit, but have clear intentions. Build yourself up first and then everything else will follow. I guarantee, I guarantee. If I would have done that, I would probably be way, way, way, you know, bigger. But I was, you know, chasing ass. You know what I'm saying. Luckily, I just always been ambitious, an ambitious man chasing ass, but it's a rich man's game Trying to get to you in that booty.
Speaker 1:You know what I'm saying Trying to get to you in that booty and on that note we out. He don't got it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm working on it. Tell me on Instagram At Dose of Marina, that's my Instagram.
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